Cherie717 Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 we've only met twice. he works at a local pizza hut. he is very quiet and standoffish towards his fellow employees (male and female) he wont speak unless spoken to (includes employees) when i flirt with him, he smiles, blushes, and hangs his head down. i also noticed his voice becomes softer. the first time we met: after i flirted with him, i waited for him to make the next move.. instead he became quiet and waited back at the register. then i became embarrassed and felt like he maybe he was only being nice. the rest of the time was spent in silence, but when my pizza was ready he quickly came from behind the counter carried my pizza and held the door open for me. however! he didnt ask for my number, so i didnt offer nor ask for his.(by then i already felt embarrassed) so after i got home, i realized i forgot to ask his name! second time (1 week later on the same day) was much more difficult to talk, because it was wayy more busy. when i came in i smiled and he just looked at me and did not smile back (i felt embarrassed again) he was still quiet and standoffish just like before. he took my order, i told him i wanted what had ordered last week (he remembered) *sigh* so i asked his name and he blushed, smiled and told me (in that soft voice) i said "nice to meet you" he said "nice to meet you too" but then his manager came and sent him on an errand in the back, he never made it back up front before my order was ready :'( so we still dont have eachothers numbers! and my confidence is running on "E" he accepts my advances but wont make a move of his own. i haven't really just come out and said "i wanna see you outside of pizza hut" because i dont wanna embarrass him and i dont wanna embarrass myself..
elseaacych Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 Wow. This seems very similar to my own dating situation. You can do what I did: just ask him out on a date. Have a plan in mind before you ask, and do not leave without his phone number. Go on date. Pay for date. Hopefully it goes well, but if it doesn't, you can at least say you've made your intentions known.
d0nnivain Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 Don't give up. Be patient. You know what the problem is: shyness. The solution is time & persistence. At this point he doesn't know it's OK to make a move. You are going to have to go to this Pizza Hut a lot more, preferably when he's working & it's not busy. Keep smiling. Keep talking to him. Work your way up to getting his # & go from there.
Glamvineflower Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 You will go nowhere With a guy that shy by waiting. If you get the vibe he may be interested in you, you have to flirt more. I used to be shy as well when I was young but I learned that it will take you nowhere. I'm still not brave enough to completely openly just ask a guy out but I have had more success with showing interest on my side first to get the guy to notice me. Whether he acts on it or not then comes the next problem. But first you got to push it a little more honey. Find out what his name is, how long he's been working there, just basic things and try to make small talk and smile a lot. Get him to feel comfortable talking to you. It is such a pain when it comes to insecure guys, and you said he is standoffish. Make sure you get to know him a little more before you invest yourself emotionally too much.
newmoon Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 do you know if he is single? it would be embarassing to ask out someone when they are just being polite/friendly to you, and they already have a gf. since you have only seen him twice you wouldn't know his situation. perhaps it's better to know for certain that he is single and then the embarassment factor won't be so high. it's much nicer when the guy actually asks you out though - relationships are so hard already that it is really flattering when a guy likes you and has the guts to approach and make a move. if you do that you're taking over the male part and denying him the chance to be a man and yourself the chance to be flattered that he actually likes you. i would start throwing some major hints that you're into him, but would stop short of asking, let a man be a man.
Assasda Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 Sounds like he's just really busy, next time ask him his number.
nerdlingZA Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 Wow. This seems very similar to my own dating situation. You can do what I did: just ask him out on a date. Have a plan in mind before you ask, and do not leave without his phone number. Go on date. Pay for date. Hopefully it goes well, but if it doesn't, you can at least say you've made your intentions known. If you Do this.. The guy will runaway from you.
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