Author AnneT1985 Posted August 4, 2014 Author Posted August 4, 2014 (edited) "either sue did SOMETHING (therefore sarah is in the right)" Really? You do this kind of thing to people who "do things" to you that you don't like? I can't say in my entire life I have chosen to publicly embarrass myself because something "did something" to me I didn't like. No matter what it was. That is irrelevant. Completely. Say Sue had told Sarah a month earlier she disliked her haircut. Any example you like. That makes this sort of behavior acceptable? Pretty sad. Edited August 4, 2014 by AnneT1985
beatcuff Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 I can't say in my entire life I have chosen to publicly embarrass myself because something "did something" to me I didn't like. No matter what it was. That is irrelevant. Completely. Say Sue had told Sarah a month earlier she disliked her haircut. Any example you like. That makes this sort of behavior acceptable? Pretty sad. seriously NEVER. sue made a pass at sarah's man. OR sue said to her "you are a gold digging [insert favorite expletive]". there are countless. so my ORIGINAL question remains. stop with what YOU would do/react, this is about sarah. so why not ask sarah "hey what's between you and sue". and if she says basically "nothing" we are back to she has mental issues. in which case it is best to ignore and move on.
HermioneG Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 I think Sue should not have made a second attempt. In my experience, that usually shows where the problem is. Sarah does not have to engage with a person she does not want to- and it sounds like she tried to gently rebuff the first attempt and just ignore it. That is a valid choice. If Sue realized previously there was an issue, then what a terrible idea to try and make contact in a public setting. Sarah's comment was unnecessarily rude, for sure. But Sue should not have antagonized her. It sounds like Sarah originally was just trying to maintain a boundary and Sue pushed right over it.
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