jacktheripper Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 Hello everyone... Some people say kiss on the first date, and some other people will say kiss on the second. I know it all depends on the body language of the girl and all that, but does it matter if its on the first or second date? I'm 20 years old and i have never dated a girl and I have a date coming up and I don't know what to do
RonaldS Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 Kiss when it feels right...1st, 2nd, whatever. You'll know when it's the right time, and when it's the right time, DO IT!
guest569 Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 It's no big deal, you don't have to kiss on either date if it doesn't feel right. But if you do, keep it relatively short. I have had relationships where it was on the 1st, 2nd, 3rd or 5th date. Don't fret about when, just enjoy your first date!
Author jacktheripper Posted August 2, 2014 Author Posted August 2, 2014 How do I know if it feels right? Do I just go in for the kiss? The date will be at a Starbucks so I really can't imagine myself just kissing her randomly
Wisecrack Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 First off you have to build the date to the point of going for the kiss. I don't mean this in a sleezy way but it's the building a rapport, laughing, going for a walk or something after the coffee date or walking her to her car etc. It's during those points after when you two are alone and enjoying eachothers company that at some point an opportunity will present itself and you have to go for it! Tip: if you grab coffee, remember to have a mint after so you breath don't smell if you go for a kiss
jay1983 Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 First date. If she looks like she would like to kiss, kiss her!
Art_Critic Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 first date... always... In my experience all of my relationships started out with a kiss on the first date..
elseaacych Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 Whenever it feels right. My last relationship, we dated for a month and I told him I loved him before I ever got a kiss. (And even then, I had to wait for another date. We just needed to be alone because we were super shy!) We ended up dating for three years. I've hugged after a date, but never kissed. Most recently, I patted someone awkwardly on the shoulder, because otherwise we would have had no physical contact at all. Point is, do what feels right and things will unfold as they should.
d0nnivain Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 You are right Starbucks doesn't really lend itself to a kiss. Body language is a big key. Is she leaning toward you? Has she touched you throughout the date, at all? Does she stare at your lips? When she does stare at your lips, does she lick her own? If many of those things are true and the setting is right a kiss is the next logical step. It's hard to line them up in a Starbucks. If you are feeling immensely confident at the conclusion of your date, as you walk her out of the Starbucks, before you part you can lean over & give her a peck on the check without any of those other signs but you have to be very confident to do that. Make it quick too.
kimiky Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 As donni said, kiss her check, close to her mouth so she knows what you are expecting and maybe she can make a move too is not that direct but sweet at the same time to prepare the moment
ktya Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 Hello everyone... Some people say kiss on the first date, and some other people will say kiss on the second. I know it all depends on the body language of the girl and all that, but does it matter if its on the first or second date? I'm 20 years old and i have never dated a girl and I have a date coming up and I don't know what to do Try to kiss at the end of the first date if possible. Ive had dates that went really well and didnt, and despite the girl suggesting we do it again lose interest because i didnt kiss her. The kiss shows them your interested and keeps you out of the friend zone.
smackie9 Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 If this is your first date ever, take kissing off the table until you have more experience.
FortunateSon Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 If I am interested, I try to kiss at the end of the first date. I think it sets the tone and let's her know how I feel.
Author jacktheripper Posted August 2, 2014 Author Posted August 2, 2014 If this is your first date ever, take kissing off the table until you have more experience. More experience dating other girls or more experience dating this girl? I really like her
smackie9 Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 More experience dating other girls or more experience dating this girl? I really like her Experience period, this girl, other girls whatever. Your expectations are too high. Don't expect so much on your first date ever just based on how much you like her..... Just go out and enjoy yourself, have a good time. reality check: just because a girl says yes to a date doesn't mean shes crazy about you or feels the same way. Worry about the kissing thing if she accepts a second date. I've gone out on dates, just to see what they are all about, and see if there can be an attraction as I get to know them. There were no feelings involved. So just relax and don't over think.
Author jacktheripper Posted August 3, 2014 Author Posted August 3, 2014 Experience period, this girl, other girls whatever. Your expectations are too high. Don't expect so much on your first date ever just based on how much you like her..... Just go out and enjoy yourself, have a good time. reality check: just because a girl says yes to a date doesn't mean shes crazy about you or feels the same way. Worry about the kissing thing if she accepts a second date. I've gone out on dates, just to see what they are all about, and see if there can be an attraction as I get to know them. There were no feelings involved. So just relax and don't over think. I don't understand why you said my expectations are so high when they aren't. I plan on just having a good time, but I want to know if I should kiss her on the first date or not
OwMyEyeball Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 I don't understand why you said my expectations are so high when they aren't. I plan on just having a good time, but I want to know if I should kiss her on the first date or not Then have a good time and allow your feelings - your intuition, your gut, the spirit of the moment - to determine your actions.
smackie9 Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 I don't understand why you said my expectations are so high when they aren't. I plan on just having a good time, but I want to know if I should kiss her on the first date or not We can't tell you if you should or not, it's not that simple. It's her and her actions will determine that. Like I said since you have no experience, don't worry about it right now. Relax and just go out on the date.
paigej91 Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 Hello everyone... Some people say kiss on the first date, and some other people will say kiss on the second. I know it all depends on the body language of the girl and all that, but does it matter if its on the first or second date? I'm 20 years old and i have never dated a girl and I have a date coming up and I don't know what to do I usually wait until the second. The first date is meant to feel the other out only on a personality level. But if things are there immediately and they click... hey why not.
DazedandConfused8 Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 How do I know if it feels right? Do I just go in for the kiss? The date will be at a Starbucks so I really can't imagine myself just kissing her randomly Going for coffee is not the first date.
longjohn Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 I agree with the other's kiss only when it feels right. In a car park or at a Starbucks is not ideal. I typically kiss on the second or third date when opportunity or planning allow for it. When I say planning I plan to make it nice, I plan to stick out in her mind (don't want her to forget me in a hurry) and I plan to get a third date if I/she have a high enough level of interest. An example I took a lady out once (3rd date), after dinner there was due to be fireworks and I just happened to get her out on the lake at just the right time. A bit of luck and planning made for a very nice first kiss vs tongue down throat at Starbucks lol.
Eau Claire Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 If you can't give me a nice parting hug and at least a kiss on the cheek...then no chemistry. We like affection. I am not a potential 'friend ' but a potential girlfriend. I want a tingly memory of out first meeting.
smackie9 Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 If you already know each other and sexual tension has been building up before going out on a date then yes. If you can see the chemistry ignite between you, a lot of touching, closeness, then yes. If you feel awkward, then no. If she sits back away from you, has her arms crossed, makes little eye contact, then no. If she's nervous, or reserved then no. I say wait for the second date, by then you will have more confidence.
Phoe Posted August 4, 2014 Posted August 4, 2014 I'd say not on the first date. If a man tried to kiss me on the first date, I'd decline. It's just a little too forward for having just met him. I prefer a man who shows some restraint
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