CurlyIam Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 Do you ever have a first instinct when meeting someone? Ever listen to it? I always have it: it's like a general feeling, a sort of a radar helping me "evaluate" people. It's very accurate and I hardly ever listen to it, LOOL. When I started dating my current bf it was sooo strong, yet I chose not to. Of course, there was and still is a lot of chemistry between us, but had I listened to it, it would have spared me a lot of grief... On the other hand, it's amazing how it works with people around me. It didn't fail me once... also I admit being wrong about some - I usually expected them to be worse. My mom was fantastic with that, would Always warn me about my friends and would ALWAYS be right. I wish... I wish I were wiser and I wish I had listened to myself more... And that's my confession for the evening . What's yours?
alphamale Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 Originally posted by CurlyIam Do you ever have a first instinct when meeting someone? Ever listen to it? the above comes from age and experience in dealing with diff types of people. that is why mom always knew which one of your friends was the trouble maker and which one of your boyfriends would dick you over. i call it the "eddie haskell syndrome" this is also why first impressions mean a lot.
Author CurlyIam Posted February 24, 2005 Author Posted February 24, 2005 I know what you mean. I've put it under the "dating" forum, because I meant something else. Like feeling a certain woman (totally harmless otherwise) is trouble. Knowing why also, and yet deciding to go further...
emotionsmessmeup Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 yea my first instict is usually right too...about others..but when it comes to my relationships..i suck
Author CurlyIam Posted February 24, 2005 Author Posted February 24, 2005 LOOL, emotionally... When it gets really hard, I force myself to remember just what I felt when first meeting that person. It's... cold and very efficient. But having the balls to actually do something about it, that's another story!!!! Girl, I think the solution to both our cases is simply to be f*cking dating more! Look what fidelity did to us !
emotionsmessmeup Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 u embarassed.. i was a compliment to glow on..
iliketoread Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 I usually can read people pretty well. Im usually always right.
Stone Posted February 25, 2005 Posted February 25, 2005 Yep you called it dear you dating more may be an option. My 1st instinct sucks, I usually hate someone the 1st 20 minutes I meet them and then they become my best friend I need to train my instinct.
moimeme Posted February 25, 2005 Posted February 25, 2005 I do have good instincts about people; mistakes I've made always were in ignoring my instincts. What's really peculiar is that I have gotten real strong instincts about people the first time I heard their voices! My mom was terrible at figuring people out LOL. And I was always good at it. I do think it's more than just experience, particularly since I have been good at it all along.
JoL Posted February 25, 2005 Posted February 25, 2005 Hmm my mother has a very good instinct when figuring poeple out. She doesn't even have to meet them half the time to be SPOT ON about their motivations and good/bad things. My instincts are usually very very accurate after being around someone a couple of times. My gut usually gives me a good indication of how i feel towards a person without even meaning to..I have usually been right about the people i have met. Unfortunately i have ignored my gut many times and ended up being around as*es for too long too. It's not about getting the instinctual feeling, it's about using it to your benefit and not ignoring it!
tanbark813 Posted February 25, 2005 Posted February 25, 2005 I don't know about my initial instinct about a person right off the bat, but my gut instinct in general is pretty accurate. It has been incredibly accurate in the relationships I've had lately. If I was smart enough to listen to it, and not just brush it off as paranoia, I could have saved myself a lot of time and effort over the years.
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