FoolishMan Posted August 1, 2014 Posted August 1, 2014 A cousin recently started a long distance friendship with a man who lives in the Middle East She describes him as very caring, considerate and charming... Basically swept her off her feet! She recently went with him on holiday in a third country (neither where we or he lives). She returned a fortnight ago to say she was very disappointed as he had no money and she paid for everything. I told her that is not a good sign and seems like he is using her! She said she will now give him the cold shoulder and I said perhaps that is best. Last night, in conversation, she mentioned that her and tis guy were getting on really well! I was shocked as I thought his short hands and deep pockets finished the friendship. She says that the holiday experience was an over reaction on her part.... I don't see how someone effectively spending your money can be an over reaction but there you go. I have tried to tell her to be careful but I can see that he has definately won her over. I am worried for her, would you be?
ChamomileWind Posted August 1, 2014 Posted August 1, 2014 Sounds like you have a good reason to be concerned about this guy she's hanging out with. It would be a difference if on the date, both agree to split the bill but if she had to pay for everything, he's a user.
Author FoolishMan Posted August 1, 2014 Author Posted August 1, 2014 She sees him as a prospective boyfriend I am sure..... I want to disuade her but I don't see how I can.
carrie_o Posted August 1, 2014 Posted August 1, 2014 You giving her a warning should be enough. She has to make her own mistakes. 1
Author FoolishMan Posted August 1, 2014 Author Posted August 1, 2014 It would be a difference if on the date, both agree to split the bill but if she had to pay for everything, he's a user. This was more than paying for a date. They went shopping and as far as I can gather, she paid for all that too.
ChamomileWind Posted August 1, 2014 Posted August 1, 2014 This was more than paying for a date. They went shopping and as far as I can gather, she paid for all that too. I think one warning is enough. At this point, she has to learn to decide on her own and make mistakes.
AnneT1985 Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 I think one warning is enough. At this point, she has to learn to decide on her own and make mistakes. Absolutely! Agreed. Best of luck to you! xx
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