NG107 Posted August 1, 2014 Posted August 1, 2014 I have posted my situation you can look my history posts. I have been in a emotional trauma, ups downs, got mixed messages, got emotionally broken, depressed and nervous breakdown since 5 months after breakup. The reason? Becuase I did every bit which I was not supposed to do after breakup. She used to give me plenty of mixed messages, and I hanged onto hope. Every time I initiate NC and tell her "only talk to me if u want a relationship". And every time she contacts me and I break NC thinking she might have changed, but she only came back for friends thing. All these are some texts/calls which said: "I am glad that you're happy" "I am happy that you're happy" "are we good? Cz I kinda miss you" "If you have problem with me at all you can tell me" "I have bought a tee for you" "why are you replying so flat" "my brother will approve us" "my mom dad would approve us" "my brother is comming in town, he would ask to see you" "good nite (pet name)" her mom once called me and asked me how I am. and my ex said i should visit her parents. Why would a girl do that? Why she still haven't said to her brother about breakup and still she wants me to meet him when he's back in town? She still wears my wrist watch btw. But she doesn't seem to have any interest in my life. Whenever we talked, she used to tell about her life. On my birthday she told our mutual frnds to surprise me. At 11:58 pm she told her friend to wish me at 12:00. Why? But while texting/calling I can smell that she was not interested in me. I learnt from breaking my past NC. So I finally told her "i have already told you and I hope i have to tell you this for the last time, only contact if you really want to reconcile, else stop contacting at all." She replied "whatever you feel appropriate" I could sense her lack of interest. She is the kind of girl who when breaks up, cuts of totally all the ties. Her best friend said my ex does have feelings for me but they all dont know why she is playing such drama or why she is such confused. Well, I can't hang onto hope that she has feelings. I don't know if she is really confused, or she is just playing with me and my feelings. but during NC i can somehow live without her, but i really feel sad sometimes. I dont have urge to call/text or fb stalk her, but i do miss her. Any suggestions? i still have that faith/feeling that we are gona get back, but practically I don't think we're gona get back. I want to be happy.
irresolute Posted August 1, 2014 Posted August 1, 2014 If you don't know what to do, DO NOTHING. Worst thing in the world is love someone who doesn't love us back.
2Dokie5 Posted August 1, 2014 Posted August 1, 2014 Hello, You need to ask yourself some basic questions.You can even write the answers down if you want to so it will sink better in you there's nothing wrong about it. So ask yourself this: Considering the situation ur in now with all the doubts and stuff, if you could be in a relationship with her again would you be happy?Could you trust her at all? What if she does the exact same thing in a few months time? Would you be able to go through all of this again? I've got some issues myself with a recent breakup and the answers to those questions helped me alot. Hope I helped.Best of luck
hockeydan Posted August 1, 2014 Posted August 1, 2014 The only way a kid knows whether a burner on a stove is hot like their parents told them if by touching it and getting burned. The only way your ex will know what life is like without you if you disappear from their lives. Life is trial and error and people need to understand consequences to understand what they truly have. 1
SoThatHappened Posted August 1, 2014 Posted August 1, 2014 Read the No Contact Guide if you already haven't. Cut this tumor out while you still have a chance. Become a ghost. Tell friends not to tell you ANYTHING about her. Change your number. Even if you "want" her back, it's not your choice. It's hers. Cut and run. Again, become a ghost and get your life back.
vichyfresh Posted August 1, 2014 Posted August 1, 2014 My ex is very similar to yours. She is sending me mixed signals about getting back together, but after 10 days I got enough of it. I just went NC. Now I'm 2nd day on NC, feeling better. I know she will message me, but I won't respond unless she will come and cry in front of my house.
Moonborn Posted August 1, 2014 Posted August 1, 2014 Worst thing in the world is love someone who doesn't love us back. I think having cancer is worse. Just wanted to give a different perspective. I believe that sometimes it helps thinking about the fact that there are people in this world who are in a far, far worse situation than just having a breakup . Anyway, to the OP, yes definitely stay NC. And with this I mean block her number and all that jazz. It gets better with time, but you need to avoid having contact with her to heal.
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