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So I matched with this guy on tinder like 3 months ago or something ridiculous like that. We tried to go on a date but he was so flaky, day of our date he said he could meet really late at like 9 so I said no I have work early in the morning (which he knew) so forget it. Anyways he said he would figure something out and then didn't. Totally forgot about this kid and then a few weeks ago I deleted tinder because I just don't care about dating anymore, too time consuming and I'm too apathetic about it right now, I'm just having a lot of fun being free! This dude starts talking to me again, he adds me to facebook, we try to make plans, he's not free the days I'm free, this goes on for 2 weeks or so. Last week he said during the week would work, I said ok pick a day, I hear NOTHING from him and it's now Thursday, so "during the week" is over at this point. So I just deleted him today because I'm not wasting my energy on this. Now, he messages me saying hello. Like are you kidding me?? Do I tell him to bugger off (and if so, how do I even say that without sounding rude) or do I take the passive-agressive route because I really owe this guy nothing, and just ignore him and hope he doesn't try to contact me again at this point? I have no intent or desire to see him to be honest, he's way too flaky.

 

This online stuff is can get so weird, which is why I deleted tinder. If this was an in-person occurrence, I could just shoot him a Jenna Marbles face and be done with it. I guess I could block him if he gets weird and keeps messaging me but I guess my real question now that I've typed out my thoughts lol, would be, "what is the proper 'etiquette' to rejecting him or whatever at this point?" (Is this even a rejection? Do I even need to do anything? Just ignore and block if he gets stupidly annoying right?)

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The same exact thing happened to me not long ago. When he contacted me I said: You are unreliable and inconsiderate of my time. Do NOT contact me ever again.

 

Done.

 

Why do you hesitate?

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I would just be blunt and tell him not to contact you anymore as you won't be meeting up due to his flakiness.

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I agree with the above. How ever I would not even respond.

 

 

The guy knows he's being a jackass. If he doesn't he needs to figure that out on his own. If he had any remote interest he would not be difficult to see. he surely would not leave you hanging like he has.

 

 

Just ignore him and move on with your life. He is not worth your time or energy even to respond too.

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Oh my goodness, I've been here quite a few times!

 

As for what to do, I would just come straight out and tell him that he's an annoying f*cker and that you don't have time to play games (or however you want to put it). Done.

 

Sure, you could just ignore him or block him but where is the fun in that? ;)

 

This guy is probably a player having too much fun on Tinder and probably chattin' up with all the ladies trying to keep them all straight in his head. And if you're lucky, he gets around to remembering you. Whatever. This guy is NO prize.

 

Count yourself lucky that you dodged a bullet.

 

P.S. I LOVE your attitude and zero tolerance for bullsh*t by the way ;)

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I would say he's definitely not worth your time. If he can't be bothered to do something as simple as let you know when a date to meet up will work or not, then I doubt he's really that interested in you. Forget about this guy. People behaving like him are why I don't do Tinder. Just say you'd rather he didn't talk to you anymore. Or ignore him, whichever. It doesn't seem like he's been very considerate of you, so I wouldn't worry too much about being rude.

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I would just say "I'm not interest,please do not contact me anymore." Clean simple not rude. You shouldn't have to give an explanation, it's pointless. If they haven't figured it out by now why, they never will.

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