brookebb Posted July 31, 2014 Posted July 31, 2014 Him and I met through a dating site. I'm a 21 year old female and he is a 22 year old male. We had started to text 5 days before our first date. We had our first date last night, and met at a bar. i went to the date a little tipsy- I pregamed before the date (in order to calm my nerves). I thought our conversation flowed well at first and he seemed to like me. But i think i got too drunk because of the drinking beforehand and on the date, and I felt that I was rambling (i am not even sure of what i was saying). I'm upset at myself because I had high hopes for this date. We finally called it a night and he gave me a hug and said "nice to meet you" and that's all he said. He hasn't texted me since our date. However, today he visited my profile. Why would he visit my profile if I screwed up the date? Thank you in advance.
Gaeta Posted August 1, 2014 Posted August 1, 2014 Simple. If you like the guy just text him 'thank you again for the great time last night if you want to do this again it would be my pleasure'. Done. Please don't drink before heading to a date. It gives a REALLY bad impression. You get there smelling booze and you can't even remember what you said. Don't blame him if he never replies. 1
Dork Vader Posted August 1, 2014 Posted August 1, 2014 Simple. If you like the guy just text him 'thank you again for the great time last night if you want to do this again it would be my pleasure'. Done. Please don't drink before heading to a date. It gives a REALLY bad impression. You get there smelling booze and you can't even remember what you said. Don't blame him if he never replies. Agree 100%.
writergal Posted August 1, 2014 Posted August 1, 2014 Next time don't 'pre-game' before a date with alcohol. Pretend you're on a game show and use one of your lifelines, like phone-a-friend, for moral support. Dating can be nerve wracking especially first dates, when you want to make a good impression. Now that you know how bad an idea all the drinking was, just don't do it again. You probably have a lot to offer a guy, but being inebriated doesn't give any guy a chance to see your good qualities.
smackie9 Posted August 1, 2014 Posted August 1, 2014 He probably wanted review all the dates he had by reading over the profiles to make a choice on who will get a second date.
smackie9 Posted August 1, 2014 Posted August 1, 2014 Everyone has this misconception that they were the one and only person that they went on a date with. Your date was on a Wednesday, so I`m sure he's got Friday set up with someone else. Most save their best dates for a Friday/Saturday night.
jay1983 Posted August 1, 2014 Posted August 1, 2014 He could have been with a friend of his, told them he went out with you and showed him what you look like. I've done that.
Author brookebb Posted August 1, 2014 Author Posted August 1, 2014 i understand if he doesn't contact me again. i know i screwed up. and he asked me out on a date last saturday, but i couldn't make it, so i am the one who told him to meet on wednesday. so what was the point of him visiting my profile?
jay1983 Posted August 1, 2014 Posted August 1, 2014 jay- what do you mean? I went out with a girl and a couple of days later I was hanging out with my friend . He asked me if I've met any girls. I said yes I went out with a girl from okcupid and showed him her pics.
writergal Posted August 1, 2014 Posted August 1, 2014 i understand if he doesn't contact me again. i know i screwed up. and he asked me out on a date last saturday, but i couldn't make it, so i am the one who told him to meet on wednesday. so what was the point of him visiting my profile? There's really no way anyone here could know why he looked at your dating profile after you two went out this Wednesday. I think what's more important to figure out is why you felt the need to imbibe before your date? Was this a one-time thing? If you really like this guy and want to see him again, you could always text him or email him through the dating website where you met to apologize for your tipsiness due to nerves. I think as long as you're honest he may give you another chance if he really likes you. Otherwise, chalk this one up to an "OLD 101: What *not* to do before a 1st date." Don't dwell on it too much. It was just one date with one guy that didn't end the way you wanted. Luckily, OLD is rife with choices. It's like a multiple choice test for dating. You keep choosing until you pick the right one.
deathandtaxes Posted August 1, 2014 Posted August 1, 2014 There could be any number of reasons he looked at your profile again. Maybe he was showing you to a friend. Maybe he wanted to see your pictures again, or just reread your profile. I've done this plenty of times. It's nothing big.
Noproblem Posted August 1, 2014 Posted August 1, 2014 By mistake! Don't get your hopes up high, it's over. 1
sillyanswer Posted August 1, 2014 Posted August 1, 2014 However, today he visited my profile. Why would he visit my profile if I screwed up the date? Perhaps to see your photos while thinking about the date the night before. Perhaps to see if he thought you looked like your photos. Perhaps to see what you had written and to see how it matched up with any topics you talked about last night. Perhaps it was accidental while he was deleting your messages from his inbox. Perhaps it's a site where you have to visit the profile in order to block or hide it. The way your date ended doesn't sound promising for a second one, but some people are clueless about what they should say so it's hard to be definitive. If you want to see him again, or even if you don't, you could text him to thank him for the date. That would be polite, no?
ExpatInItaly Posted August 1, 2014 Posted August 1, 2014 OP, I was once (almost) in the guy's position. My friend set me up with a single guy she knew from work. On our first date, he showed up smelling of alcohol and a touch on the slurry side. Instant turn-off, especially as he continued to drink and was quite intoxicated by the time the date was over. I wasn't interested in meeting up again. But when a different friend asked about the date, I showed her his FB profile picture because she didn't know who he was. Simple as that, didn't mean anything. 1
smackie9 Posted August 1, 2014 Posted August 1, 2014 TBH why should you knock yourself over this. Who cares why. Move on. 1
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