HeartbrokenNewbie Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 I know exactly what u are saying & it is true. I suppose back in the early days I would do or say things & then regret it & beat myself up I guess I'm worried I will feel like that again & I feel so well balanced now x my ex should have just left it well alone! x 1
Author Lolalo Posted August 3, 2014 Author Posted August 3, 2014 OK so you may have been involved in the post regarding me blocking my ex on Facebook. He text me today asking whether I was out of the house as he was coming back from his work trip in a few days. I asked a mutual friend a couple a couple of days ago to tell him I wasn't going to be out of the house on time as the other house isn't ready yet. I feel like I can't text him back, I know that sounds ridiculous because it's just formalities, but still I've got this mental block. I don't know whether I should get mutual friend to respond on my behalf and just reiterate that no I won't be out of the house on time or just text him back myself?
WorryGirl Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 Text him yourself. You have it set in your mind that you want nothing to do with him, which is fine. But when assets are involved, unfortunately it isn't that simple. But you shouldn't be using a friend to communicate between you, it's none of your friend's business and you'll find things run much more smoothly if you just keep it simple and reply/talk when it's necessary. 1
Author Lolalo Posted August 5, 2014 Author Posted August 5, 2014 Just a little update here. As above, he text me after I blocked him. And we had a very blunt text conversation. I'm so glad we did, it's like the rose tinted glasses have been taken off. The only time he can bring himself to contact me in 5 to 6 weeks was when he needed something! In the meanwhile I've been sorting out everything at home, selling things, packing things, financials, the lot, literally everything. He gets to come home and do nothing. One of the things he text me about yesterday was asking me if he could have the car (which is in my name - so no he can't!). It's obvious he's only all of a sudden realised that this is the reality and he's coming home in a few days and not going to have one... The cheek of it made me so angry, why he thinks he can waltz out of my life, have everything done for him and then have the bloody car is beyond me! Anyway, just needed to get that out :-) 1
Author Lolalo Posted August 5, 2014 Author Posted August 5, 2014 Text him yourself. You have it set in your mind that you want nothing to do with him, which is fine. But when assets are involved, unfortunately it isn't that simple. But you shouldn't be using a friend to communicate between you, it's none of your friend's business and you'll find things run much more smoothly if you just keep it simple and reply/talk when it's necessary. P.s thank you for this it made me do the right thing! 1
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted August 5, 2014 Posted August 5, 2014 Our stories sound so incredibly similar x I did finally block him yesterday was bit down last night afterwards & slightly off today but I just keep reminding myself that he chose to leave & as such has no rights to look at our lives .. It's what he wanted x
WorryGirl Posted September 12, 2014 Posted September 12, 2014 P.s thank you for this it made me do the right thing! This is a little (very!) belated but you are welcome. I'm glad it was okay for you
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