moonlightpath Posted July 31, 2014 Posted July 31, 2014 Well I'm 20. I just got out of a breakup not too long ago. Lets say a month.It hasn't exactly been easy. Anyways, I texted this guy I go to college with. I had a question about classes so I thought to ask him. A while back during the school year I had a movie night with him. I knew he liked me. But after that night it didn't seem to go anywhere. So I moved on with my life. But we remained friends. While I was texting him yesterday he asked if he could count on another movie with me. I said yes. He started to say things like how he had a nice time that night, now he was nervous, how he wanted to make a move but was scared. Then he asked me if I was a virgin. I don't know why, but I just feel like thats too personal of a thing to ask a girl you don't know too well. After he asked, I told him I never sleep with someone unless I am in a relationship with them. He said the same and that he is not the type of guy to hook up with random girls. Am I wrong for feeling uncomfortable when he asked if i was a virgin? Am i just being too picky? He seems like he does like me. But I just don't want to get played again like i did a while back. I don't want him to think he can use me in any manner. I am just also not use to dating guys my age. Normally I date guys around the age of 24/25. D you think what he asked just has todo with his maturity level?
PegNosePete Posted July 31, 2014 Posted July 31, 2014 No, that is a very strange and creepy thing for him to ask you. It suggests he is just after sex. 2
Michelle ma Belle Posted July 31, 2014 Posted July 31, 2014 No, that is a very strange and creepy thing for him to ask you. It suggests he is just after sex. I'm going to have to agree with PegNosePete on this one as well. When a guy asks such a personal question SO early on and out of the blue, that tells me he's trying to gauge how quickly he can get into your pants. Tread carefully 1
d0nnivain Posted July 31, 2014 Posted July 31, 2014 Maybe he has poor social skills? It is a very personal Q to ask someone you don't know. However, you answered him & his response seemed to match your philosophy. If you do have another "movie night" with him I'd suggest you have it in a theater or public place (movies under the stars in a park) but not in either one of your homes. 1
rocketman122 Posted July 31, 2014 Posted July 31, 2014 uncomfortable for asking if youre a virgin? I dont see a reason to feel uncomfortable with that. the question may be a bit forward but you dont have to feel uncomfortable. u could have said none of your business. every little thing and people get so wound up.
Author moonlightpath Posted July 31, 2014 Author Posted July 31, 2014 I did feel like he had crappy social skills. But I just think its weird how he admitted to wanting to cuddle on our first time hanging out. He also asked me how many guys I've been with.
d0nnivain Posted July 31, 2014 Posted July 31, 2014 People who want #s are bad news. No answer you give them will be "right". I'd give this guy a wide berth.
Assasda Posted July 31, 2014 Posted July 31, 2014 I did feel like he had crappy social skills. But I just think its weird how he admitted to wanting to cuddle on our first time hanging out. He also asked me how many guys I've been with. Weird that he's saying this and he doesnt even know you yet. Bold at the least
rewl Posted July 31, 2014 Posted July 31, 2014 I sometimes ask chicks how many boys they've been with, they usually seem totally fine with it. I guess it depends on how you ask. But it's important for me to discern whether I'm talking to a slut or not if I'm unsure.
Author moonlightpath Posted July 31, 2014 Author Posted July 31, 2014 I understand wanting to make sure I'm not some trashy girl who sleeps with any guy. But I just feel like that question should be asked later on after more dates pass. 1
rocketman122 Posted July 31, 2014 Posted July 31, 2014 so this is your que guys, dont ask anything. just smile and wait till you get in her pants. best tactic I think.
Author moonlightpath Posted July 31, 2014 Author Posted July 31, 2014 Thats not what I'm saying at all.
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