babygirl6 Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 OK, Yesturday he didn't hold my hand but this other guy asked me out @ lunch. My ex was sitting by me (like usual) and told that guy that I was taken! What would that mean? Does he wanna go back out with me? What is he doing?? Help again! ~Babygirl~
d'Arthez Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 Don't know the exact situation with your ex, but probably it can mean 2 things: 1) You're mine. You're my girlfriend. 2) You were mine. I don't want you to move on. But be assertive about the situation. You're not the property of your ex! Even if he truly is your boyfriend, you should stand up for yourself. If you want to go out with the guy, tell the guy.
_Saffy_ Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 well theres only one way to find out why he said this................ask him. if he doesnt give a definite answer, telling to quit messing with ya head.......and stay away from him.
LucreziaBorgia Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 From reading your other posts, it sounds like the same old same old. He wants to be with you, but he doesn't want a relationship with you. To top it off, he doesn't want anyone else to have you either. You are known as what is called the "backup plan" - if he can't find anyone else he wants to be with he'll probably keep you around in this sort of "not a relationship" sort of thing which may or may not evolve into something more depending on if someone else he wants to be with more crosses his path. He's getting exactly what he wants from you, and he is happy with this arrangement. There's no way he's going to 'change his mind' if he isn't motivated to do so. Just by being with him under these terms, he thinks that you must be OK with it on some level - or else you'd leave. So, it will have to be you to make the decision: stay and be unsure and miserable, or leave - be miserable for a while - and then get your heart back in shape so that you can meet a guy who will give you the type of relationship you really want and need. You can either continue to keep yourself in this very one-sided and painful "relationship" or you can let this guy know that he is crushing your heart by doing this and that you need some firm NO contact time to get your heart back together.
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