chrisboy Posted July 30, 2014 Posted July 30, 2014 (edited) hello guys im a newbie here i just want to share ans seek some advices from all of you here about what i am feeling. i am 22 years old and my girlfriend Jen is 23. my girlfriend for 2 years asked me 1 month ago to cooldown our relationship just because she said she just want a space and think for awhile. but before that, we got alot of arguements and misunderstanding but we solve it immediately and still love each other. back to the day she asked for it, i admit i feel upset on her and just let her, i ignored her phone calls and messages. then after 3 weeks i realize that ive done wrong i felt guilty because ive just let her pursue it. i miss her worried for her especially for her everyday safety when it comes to her routine which is home to office and office to home. because of that i tried to send messages to her first that im now missing her so much and she is already big part of my life. but since she didnt respond. i proceed calling her on my mobile phone and that time we talked about it alot. as part of maturity, i apologized first because i disobeyed her request. then i said that im sorry because i realized that i cant go on without her in my life we already loved each other, showed and gave almost everything for me thats why i have a reason not giveup on her even she is also saying that she is not deserving for me. then when i started asking her if she still love me, she cant answer me easily but cried so much does she still love and care for me?. but after awhile she already answered but not clearly she said she dont and just one time she woke up and thinks that she dont love me anymore thats why she asked for it. aside from that we have discussed alot and that continued for 3 days until earlier. which i already asked her to meet each other beacuse for me it will be still better if we talk about it personally because we are couple. at first she doesnt want but in the end she agreed but we will just set a time. i really love her faithfully with all my heart and she knows it. right now im still in slight depression but im still fighting for her whatever she does and say because for me i know she is the only one i want to be with and i can love i already cried alot just to prove her that i dont want to let her go even its just a cooldown. but i am always keeping this up with prayers. my hard and stable reason is because i really love her very much and i dont want to lose her what should i really have to do guys? :let her be for awhile :fight for her : or just giveup and accept Edited July 30, 2014 by chrisboy
Pendragon Posted July 30, 2014 Posted July 30, 2014 my girlfriend for 2 years asked me 1 month ago to cooldown our relationship just because she said she just want a space and think for awhile. "Space" could translate to her having seen a new potential interest in her life without telling you. then i said that im sorry because i realized that i cant go on without her in my life we already loved each other, showed and gave almost everything for me thats why i have a reason not giveup on her even she is also saying that she is not deserving for me. You could definitely go on without her. This statement of co-dependency isn't attractive in her eyes and is not a mindset you should have anyways. Her saying that she's not deserving of you (or "you deserve better") is the equivalent of her trying to let you down with an easier way. then when i started asking her if she still love me, she cant answer me easily but cried so much does she still love and care for me?. but after awhile she already answered but not clearly she said she dont and just one time she woke up and thinks that she dont love me anymore thats why she asked for it. If you have to ask your significant other if she still loves you, that's already a bad sign. Her answer was that she doesn't love you anymore. i dont want to lose her what should i really have to do guys? :let her be for awhile :fight for her : or just giveup and accept I don't mean to sound harsh but you sound as if your happiness depends on her, she has already said she doesn't love you, and that she wants "space". From your post, it just doesn't sound like she's interested anymore and you're pressuring her a lot about it. If I were you, I'd leave, for your own good.
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