NG107 Posted July 30, 2014 Posted July 30, 2014 Hey Guys, this is my first thread. I was in a relationship with a girl for almost 1 year and then I dumped her because she becoming too clingy. I assured her that I am all hers, still this was not enough for her. One day, she became violent on me. I told her to go away. Then for couple of days she apologized, but because of the irritation and heat of the moment, I did not forgive her. Some days after I told her that she should move on. A month passed, then I calmed down. And I felt like we shouldn't have broken up. I told her clearly I want her back. She said she needs time but everything will be alright. She assured me that she will take time and everything will be alright with time. We started going out again, dating again, everything was so romantic and so beautiful. She went for Dubai trip with her college friends. She texted me from there that she missed me too much she wished if I were with her there. Infact, she used to tell her friends there that I am keeping our picture as my Display Picture on whatsapp and Kik. She used to brag about me sometimes. But when she was back from that trip, I could feel that she was a bit distant from me, and with time there came a fear in me of losing her. So I asked her whats going on and she pulled the card, that we are just dating, we arent committed. After this incident I became too clingy for couple of days. She told me to give her time and she will come back to me on her own. I gave her time like a week. I could sense that she was having freedom plus me with her. She suddenly started blaming me that I bind her. I dont give her breathing space. All of the excuses came out of no where. She was the one who used to take me everywhere with her. And suddenly she told me that she cant take me everywhere. I was devastated. I got mixed signals from her side. And this on-off thing went on for 5 months now. Everytime I tell her not to contact me if she doesnt want relationship, still she contacts me every couple of week or maximum a month. And then pulls the friends card. Last time I implemented NC for 1 month. She started calling me from 28th day, but I ignored her for a week. Then on my birthday she texted my brother "I doesn't have guts towish NG107 his birthday. Wish him all the best of this world." Then I felt I should contact her. Since then, she used to text me whenever she wanted. She bought a Tee for me. she wanted to meet me. But when I asked why you want to meet, she said "just like that". In between all of these, she gives me mixed signals like "i miss you" then she texts me one night at 1:00 am with a pet name she used to call me. She said her parents wont have problem with us. They will approve us. Her blood brother will also approve us. (Why would a girl discus such things if she doesnt want a future with a guy) She told her best friend, that she doesnt want anything but she wants friendship. And I dont want friendship with her. If she really wanted friendhship, why would she bother to call me by my pet name, say she misses me,discuss with me that her parents will approve us and her brother will too. She hasent removed our photos from facebook, she still wears my wristwstch which she took from me. I really feel she still loves me, but I would be dumb enough to feel so. Everytime I have told her not to contact me she still finds a way. I have implemented NC for 5 times. First 3 times for a weeK. 4th time for a month. And 5th time since yesterday. I love her, but she talks with me when she wants to. How she wants to and takes me for granted. Romance is gone. she doesnt care whats going in my life. And I dont know what should I do. Help. Thanks guys in advance. Sorry for the long read.
hoping2heal Posted July 30, 2014 Posted July 30, 2014 You should use the block recipient feature on your phone.
Simon Phoenix Posted July 30, 2014 Posted July 30, 2014 You should use the block recipient feature on your phone. Exactly. And honestly, it's not her breaking No Contact, it's you. No Contact is not a joint thing, it's an individual thing. I mean, you're the one who keeps caving -- it's not her job to let you go; it's your job to be an adult and go on your own. Of course she's going to continue to be selfish because you don't have the strength/common sense not to fall for it.
David87 Posted July 30, 2014 Posted July 30, 2014 Its time to initiate NC, because she knows how desperate you are about losing her.
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