longjohn Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 I'm still trying to figure this one out. What's the story with "modern dating". I was married for a number of years, been divorced a while and dated a bit here and there. I'm male in my early 30's. Don't get me wrong here I'm open minded and non judgmental. I've no issues with people being honest. What I don't get is meeting people from OLD, go on a dozen dates and then say ok lets be exclusive, they agree all the while "dating" or in other words banging other fellas. Now I could understand if they said "no I just want to date" that's fine I know then to walk or stay in the game. Maybe I'm naïve but is this isn't normal to me. I typically "date" just one woman at a time to see where it goes. Yet it seems like every other person male and female using OLD have no issue mulitdating? In fact I believe the majority multidate. I dated one woman briefly that admitted while half shot (drunk) one night how easy it was for her to date two or three guys at the same time. Said they never knew the difference due to their schedules and she easily kept them apart. You'd better believe I never seen her again LOL. This was a woman that had a profile that read "looking for a serious relationship" yet the truth was she was looking for fun. Which in itself is perfectly fine, why lie about it?
rewl Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 Date two at a time from online + any bird that might attract you from real life making 3 in total as a maximum. It's actually very easy. You can even compare and decide who you'll go with after a couple of dates.
Author longjohn Posted July 29, 2014 Author Posted July 29, 2014 Date two at a time from online + any bird that might attract you from real life making 3 in total as a maximum. It's actually very easy. You can even compare and decide who you'll go with after a couple of dates. Maybe I'm going about it all wrong? Seems like everyone is shopping around and looking for the best they can find. Have we really gotten to the point where we juggle people around like we're deciding on produce?
TXGuy Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 I'm still trying to figure this one out. What's the story with "modern dating"... ...This was a woman that had a profile that read "looking for a serious relationship" yet the truth was she was looking for fun. Which in itself is perfectly fine, why lie about it? In this situation, I think a woman will lie about looking for a serious relationship so the guys she is 'having fun' with will treat her better than they would a woman who overtly says she is just looking for nookie. In a similAr situation, a man might lie about looking for a serious relationship because otherwise it would be more difficult to find women willing to sleep with him. I'm not saying it is the right thing to do, I'm simply giving my guess as to why people would lie.
Author longjohn Posted July 29, 2014 Author Posted July 29, 2014 In this situation, I think a woman will lie about looking for a serious relationship so the guys she is 'having fun' with will treat her better than they would a woman who overtly says she is just looking for nookie. In a similAr situation, a man might lie about looking for a serious relationship because otherwise it would be more difficult to find women willing to sleep with him. I'm not saying it is the right thing to do, I'm simply giving my guess as to why people would lie. That makes perfect sense. Who goes to the extra effort if it's just a quick shag vs a potential partner. It's quite irritating when it happens. Jumping through all the hoops and going through all the crap just to figure out your guy one of three or whatever the number is. It cheapens it and shows that some women equally use OLD for their own uses just as men do and be dishonest about it.
Fondue Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 Maybe I'm going about it all wrong? Seems like everyone is shopping around and looking for the best they can find. Have we really gotten to the point where we juggle people around like we're deciding on produce? It's not about sleeping around or anything, it's legitimately trying to find a match for you. You often have to look far and wide to find someone that you connect with well enough to proceed for "the long haul." It's like shopping for a house. You don't just find the "right" one immediately, you look and look and look and look and look... And then look again. You might even come back to some of those you ALREADY looked at and look at them again. It takes a while to find the right house, just like it takes a while to find the right man or woman.
Eau Claire Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 I'm still trying to figure this one out. What's the story with "modern dating". I was married for a number of years, been divorced a while and dated a bit here and there. I'm male in my early 30's. Don't get me wrong here I'm open minded and non judgmental. I've no issues with people being honest. What I don't get is meeting people from OLD, go on a dozen dates and then say ok lets be exclusive, they agree all the while "dating" or in other words banging other fellas. Now I could understand if they said "no I just want to date" that's fine I know then to walk or stay in the game. Maybe I'm naïve but is this isn't normal to me. I typically "date" just one woman at a time to see where it goes. Yet it seems like every other person male and female using OLD have no issue mulitdating? In fact I believe the majority multidate. I dated one woman briefly that admitted while half shot (drunk) one night how easy it was for her to date two or three guys at the same time. Said they never knew the difference due to their schedules and she easily kept them apart. You'd better believe I never seen her again LOL. This was a woman that had a profile that read "looking for a serious relationship" yet the truth was she was looking for fun. Which in itself is perfectly fine, why lie about it? Not my experience. I met three nice men who wanted a serious relationship. The same with my friends. Your culture must be very different than The NW USA...all of my fiends want to meet a life partner.
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