ChocolateBunny Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 I'm gonna try to keep this as short as possible. I was in a long distance relationship, ended up moving 2000 miles to live with him, got engaged, then found out he cheated on me with 8 different girls, multiple times each, and tried to hook up with a lot of others who simply didn't give him the time of day. I caught him in endless lies, and I found out about the cheating from other people (I did forgive him a few times, and every time I found out about another girl he would SWEAR that there weren't any more, but there obviously were). I was head over heels in love with this man. I was very young and naive when we started dating (I was 17 and he was 25). He was my first love and I had that whole "fairytale" mentality. I thought he was the one and would do anything to be with him. But there came a point (after about a year of doubts and wondering whether we were right for each other), that I had to say enough is enough. I moved back home about a month ago, and I have been such a depressed wreck. He destroyed me in so many ways, but the biggest thing I'm dealing with right now is the anger and betrayal from the cheating, coupled with the feelings of loneliness from not having him around anymore. I haven't been sleeping much, because I can't seem to get used to sleeping alone. So 3 days ago I decided to initiate the No Contact rule. We had kept in touch after the break up and I think that was just delaying the healing process. We would fight and cry a lot and I would just end up even more hurt after every conversation. He has been trying this whole time to get me back, and has been using these stupid tips from YouTube videos, such as trying to make me jealous, ignoring me, and stuff like that. Obviously that just hurt me more so I decided that NC would be the best option. We got in a fight one night and I told him to leave me alone and never talk to me again. And to my surprise, he actually hasn't tried to contact me since then. Which I know is a good thing in the end but it still hurts. It's like I never meant anything to him. Any advice on how to deal with the emotions I'm having from the cheating, how to get over this break up easier, or how to not break the NC rule would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!
Elle1975 Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 It's a matter of will power and time. I would also recommend getting busy. It's easy to stare at your phone if you are just sitting at home. If you feel you need a few counseling sessions, or a therapist, to talk the cheating out with someone, do so.
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