Rose28 Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 So here is the thing, I have met this guy on online dating site and seen him about twice, and he is the one that has always planned and organised everything. He started off talking to me a lot and made effort to keep the conversation going. The dates I had with him were brilliant, full of laughter and no awkwardness. Last time I saw him, it was quite special but I did tell him I wasn’t going to sleep with him and he was perfectly ok with that. He always picked me up and dropped me home and said it would be nice seeing me again. I decided to organise something myself this time, so I suggested meeting up but he said wasn’t going to be around the area so unfortunately he can’t which is fair enough. Now, although he still makes the effort to keep the conversation going, he doesn’t reply as fast. It can take him up 4-5 hours to reply, if not the next day. However, on that the same weekend when I decided to text him first, I didn’t hear from him at all, and turns out he was very sick and explained what he had. I am not sure whether I believe him, although he texted me back and said he was really not feeling well and even off work. And he still texts me paragraphs but takes forever. I am not a clingy girl or dependent as I don’t text back quick myself but I do text back in a reasonable time to make sure they know I am still interested. So I basically told him to text me when he actually has a free time to talk but then realised that may have sounded a bit rude so I sent him a text asking how he was and btw, I didn’t mean the previous text to sound rude. He did reply to me but the next day, and I have not bothered to respond back. The way he is texting me, I am not sure if he is interested in me although I feel a connection with him. If he wasn’t interested why see me again, and still make effort with keeping the conversation going but the impression I get is completely different. What do I do? I don’t want to hang on to something and feel like I have wasted my time but I did see him as potential. Any suggestions?
WorryGirl Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 I don't know if he's interested in you. I recommend you back off a bit. You don't know this guy very well, so it's nothing gained and nothing lost. Let it go as though it doesn't matter, because it really doesn't. If things happen and you get to see him again then cool. But don't worry yourself if it doesn't. 1
fred123 Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 go with ur gut. biggest mistake i made wasnt listening to my gut 1
LuvsTrucks2 Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 I've said this before and the experts say it over and over again, if you have to ask if someone is interested, that's your answer in a nut shell, if someone is interested in you, you will know it. 2
Poppygoodwill Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 YOu've only gone out twice, you said, but you talk about it like it was a significant relationship so far. I agree with the other poster: if he's interested, you'll know it. If someone wants to see you, they find the time, they make the time, they find a way. Forget texting. You can't get to know someone by text. CALL HIM! If you invite him out for specific dates and he can't make it, and he doesn't come up with alternatives to show that he's genuinely interested.....then he's not. simple as that.
Fondue Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 He sounds A LOT like me. Eerily similar. Sets everything up, total gentleman, always make sure the girls I take out have a wonderful time. BUt I also keep things quite distant and keep the same text pattern as that man. Slow to reply, but when I do, it's usually paragraphs, elaborated and whatever else. Also put my phone away when I am not feeling well and shut out the world. If he keeps asking you to see him, he is interested. He's just very reserved about it. WHich isn't a bad thing. He's a slow burner (like me). While from waht people tell me, is better for relationships anyway. Let them build up, instead of start ablaze and then fizzle out just as quickly. People seem to make a big deal of the man who has to show you a grand gesture of his feelings. For some reason many people expect the person that they are dating to make things super clear right away. It doesn't work like that in the real world. Let things marinate and enjoy the ride. I don't think you have anything to worry about. 1
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