Orije Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 I've been dating this girl for 2 months now and things seem to be going fairly well. I'm 19 and she is 18. I just have to ask because this has been bothering me alot and how you guys would respond. I text my girlfriend because we don't talk over the phone due to her not liking it. She doesn't text much because she is busy, but each text being 2 hours or longer til she replies. She doesn't initiate conversations at all. I usually say good mornings and ask about her day and random things that happen to me, but she doesn't ask about my day. Thats just the little thngs. The big mishap is that I won't get a text for hours, but she is always on facebook/twitter/posting on instagram telling about her day and whats going on with her and it leaves me here just waiting for a reply which really gets to me. What should I do or what would you do?
KatZee Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 I would find a person who was more interested in me. This girl can't even be bothered to respond in a timely manner, she doesn't care to ask about you or your day, she doesn't even initiate talking to you. If you just stopped all communication, would she even reach out to you? Obviously there are things/people in her life that are higher priority than you are. You willing to continue being an after thought? 7
Author Orije Posted July 29, 2014 Author Posted July 29, 2014 She is great in person. We talk alot and connect very well, but over texting and social media not at all. Is it okay to ask her is she really interested in me? Cause I go out of my way to do so much for her, but social media doesn't do nothing and yet it gets more updated than me. I want to confront her and ask if there is something up so I can get her to see what she is doing, but I don't know how to word it since I'm kinda hurt.
Keenly Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 Personal interaction between you two is less important to her than looking cool in front of all of her friends and followers. 2
TouchedByViolet Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 She is great in person. We talk alot and connect very well, but over texting and social media not at all. Is it okay to ask her is she really interested in me? Cause I go out of my way to do so much for her, but social media doesn't do nothing and yet it gets more updated than me. I want to confront her and ask if there is something up so I can get her to see what she is doing, but I don't know how to word it since I'm kinda hurt. If you have to ask whether someone is interested in you.... they probably are not. You can always ask her to initiated more conversation but that is unlikely to work. I know it sucks sometimes, but there is always the next girl. 1
WhiskeyJack Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 I would personally not put up with someone valuing social media more than me. Just straight up ask her why she feels the need to update social media before you.
Author Orije Posted July 29, 2014 Author Posted July 29, 2014 I couldn't hold it in so I sent her a text and it says. "Hey I'm going to be honest ad ask. In our relationship is social media more important than me? I don't mind waiting hours for a text if you're busy, but when something happens, twitter/facebook/instagram knows about it, but I don't. Its been kinda bothering me and I wanted to ask. I always initiate conversation and I'm the last one to find out anything. So call or text back so we can talk. Thank you." Is that the best way to say it to her? Now I have to wait
WhiskeyJack Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 I couldn't hold it in so I sent her a text and it says. "Hey I'm going to be honest ad ask. In our relationship is social media more important than me? I don't mind waiting hours for a text if you're busy, but when something happens, twitter/facebook/instagram knows about it, but I don't. Its been kinda bothering me and I wanted to ask. I always initiate conversation and I'm the last one to find out anything. So call or text back so we can talk. Thank you." Is that the best way to say it to her? Now I have to wait It might have been better to ask her in person so you could gauge her initial reaction to being asked. It gives the best cues. But the text was decent and got your point across. Let us know how it goes.
Author Orije Posted July 29, 2014 Author Posted July 29, 2014 She texted back telling me that she told me before about her not texting 24/7 and that she updates her social media sites to let her friends and family know how she is doing and not just me. She said its nothing about the relationship, but that she likes to share everything with her friends.
Lani Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 She texted back telling me that she told me before about her not texting 24/7 and that she updates her social media sites to let me her friends and family how she is doing and not just me. She said its nothing about the relationship, but that she likes to share everything with her friends. Then I guess it's up to you to decide whether or not that's something you want in your relationship long term. She's made it clear that it's the way she wants to communicate, and if you can't deal with that then you need to do something about it... like walk away.
Gaeta Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 She texted back telling me that she told me before about her not texting 24/7 and that she updates her social media sites to let her friends and family know how she is doing and not just me. She said its nothing about the relationship, but that she likes to share everything with her friends. So you are in the same basket as her friends and cousins and grand aunts. If she has a good news she's gonna put it online so you better read it there and not bother her with a text. Is it possible she just likes having a boyfriend for the image? 2
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