oberkeat Posted July 28, 2014 Posted July 28, 2014 28, Male. So, I initially turned to OLD because I rarely encounter women my own age in real life. I work full-time in an office at a college campus in which all of my co-workers are over the age of 50, and my friends all relocated to various locals around the country after college (we meet occasionally when one or the other is in town) so I haven't much of a social circle. But lately, I'm not finding any good matches on OLD. It's the same profiles each time I log in, and they are either uninteresting to me or women I've already dated. So, I'm thinking about going back to basics, trying to come up with new ways I can get some exposure to/get to know/get into conversations with females in real life. Any suggestions? Some things about me: I'm kinda boring. I'm not much of an outdoors person. I'm mostly into books and movies, which seem to be fairly solitary activities. I go to the gym 4-5 times per week, but I mostly play basketball then go about my day. I'm thinking about enrolling in some water aerobics class that meets nights at the public pool near the office where I work; not sure if that would be a good place to meet people.
ajheart Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 Do interesting things. Women are attracted to intrigue and the mysterious. If you live a boring life, in the very least, don't act like you live a boring life. If you believe that, the other person will certainly believe that and you will be single forever. Join a community, and have fun. Just start meeting new people. Those people will introduce you to other people. Rinse and repeat.
CarrieT Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 You are going to laugh, but I can assure you that there is a MASSIVE number of single women wandering around crafts shows and craft-oriented street fairs. I make and sell jewelry and when I was selling at those events, I would call all my single male friends to come and hang out in my booth. Every single one of them would end up with dates. 1
HappyLove Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 You seem like you'd benefit from meetup.com. Not only to meet women but friends with similar interests. 1
deathandtaxes Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 Dood....you work on a college campus....how hard is it to meet women? Ok, so maybe not the women your age, but still. Those co-workers may have daughters your age, or have friends that have daughters your age. Oh, and yoga. Water aerobics? enh...classes I ever see where I go is all senior citizens lol.
Author oberkeat Posted July 29, 2014 Author Posted July 29, 2014 You are going to laugh, but I can assure you that there is a MASSIVE number of single women wandering around crafts shows and craft-oriented street fairs. I make and sell jewelry and when I was selling at those events, I would call all my single male friends to come and hang out in my booth. Every single one of them would end up with dates. Thanks. This is basically the kind of advice I'm wanting. I need to brainstorm new activities where I can meet people, because I'm pretty much out of ideas. You seem like you'd benefit from meetup.com. Not only to meet women but friends with similar interests. Thanks. I'm not familiar with meetup. I'll look into it. Dood....you work on a college campus....how hard is it to meet women? You would think, right? But when you're stuck in a fourth floor office from 9to5, sometimes in day-long meetings, it's actually pretty hard.
music_and_poetry Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 I say just get into the habit of being really really social. Practice socializing with everyone, old people, people of your gender, opposite gender. Practice engaging in conversation and you'll meet more people than you'd ever dream possible. You never know, you might small talk with some dude who has a hot cousin to set you up with! I try to make conversation with everyone children, adults, elderly people. I regularly hold the door for others at malls, etc. When I'm checking out at a cash register, I ask the person about their day and try to be sincerely interested in what they have to say. I find I'm asked out a lot and I think it has to do with the fact that people sense I am friendly and approachable. Good luck!
d0nnivain Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 Meetup.com is a great start. There are groups that discuss books & others that go to movies. Try joining a co-ed basketball league. If you search there are all sorts of singles groups tailored to various interests. I found one called Leashes & Lovers that I liked because I could bring my dog. I thought about joining another where they match you up to play golf. I figured even if I didn't make a love connection it was still a nice day out. There are wine & beer tasting ones. Others play tennis. I went to some that played board games. NPR had one. If you care about it, there's a group for it. On your college campus, get involved in activities that interest you. Smile at the cute girl in class & ask her to study with you. Sit next to the cute girl in the library or at the student union. Get a part time job to meet people. The prohibitions against dating in the work place don't have as much force when it's not your career.
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