Trane Posted July 28, 2014 Posted July 28, 2014 Why do women make eye contact with a guy, give him polite signals that practically tell him approach only to say they are not interested when he does make contact? I know this is a game some women play to test their drawing power when they age. Some get a real kick out of pretending to be interested, then pull the rug out from under the guy. At the same time, the same woman will get really mad when you don't approach her. I have to ask myself, why bother approaching when you know it's just a stupid test to see if your attraction power is still valid. I'm at the point where I ignore signals. Don't know which ones to pick up on anymore. Nowadays, the woman in question better do jumping jacks in front of me to get my attention. At least when she does this, I'll have less fears of rejection or ridicule because she made herself look a little bit ridiculous trying to get my attention. Why do some women lead men on like this?
Keenly Posted July 28, 2014 Posted July 28, 2014 Have you ever thought that you might be misintrtpreting what these women are doing, otntjat your mind is making connections between her demeanor and these signals that just isn't there? If this kind of thing happens over and over, then its your radar dish that's broken. 4
todreaminblue Posted July 28, 2014 Posted July 28, 2014 its not right, and i dont feel most women would do this at all......its mean..sometimes though women are trying to be friendly and they might give smiles or eye smiles or smile when they look at a guy like they would a female....doesnt mean its a come on ...its just friendly....i dont think many woman would want to lead guys on to test pulling power....if you have to test it you havent got it thats my belief...so you shouldnt be testing at all......deb
Author Trane Posted July 28, 2014 Author Posted July 28, 2014 Have you ever thought that you might be misintrtpreting what these women are doing, otntjat your mind is making connections between her demeanor and these signals that just isn't there? If this kind of thing happens over and over, then its your radar dish that's broken. You could totally be right. Funny thing, I always thought extended looks my way by a woman and a smile my way from her would be enough, especially when I look away, and return the gaze seconds later and she's still looking my way.
slizl Posted July 28, 2014 Posted July 28, 2014 You could totally be right. Funny thing, I always thought extended looks my way by a woman and a smile my way from her would be enough, especially when I look away, and return the gaze seconds later and she's still looking my way. You sure she wasn't gawking at the handsome guy right behind you? 1
pteromom Posted July 28, 2014 Posted July 28, 2014 I know this is a game some women play to test their drawing power when they age. Some get a real kick out of pretending to be interested, then pull the rug out from under the guy. Never knew anyone who did this. Maybe they are just being friendly? Or maybe you approach in a way that puts them off immediately? I'm at the point where I ignore signals. Well, then you'll get nowhere. Why don't you just approach in a way that is casual and friendly and see what happens? Why does it need expectations attached to it? You can just be nice. Maybe she'll be nice back. Maybe if she is, you can take it to the next level. Maybe at some point, you'll meet that right woman who just keeps leveling up right along with you. Don't know which ones to pick up on anymore. That's up to you, but dating is a quantity game. The more people you meet, and the more attempts you make, the more likely you will be to have success. Perhaps you should set your fears aside and not worry about rejection. Go in expecting that a % of women will reject you, and figure it is their loss. Why do some women lead men on like this? Why worry about the motivation of others? Focus on what is in your control - YOUR actions. 1
Mrin Posted July 28, 2014 Posted July 28, 2014 Just tossing this out there but perhaps the problem lies with what you do when do you in fact approach. Too strong? Too soft? Maybe spoiling the initial attraction? Do you wear cologne? That could do it an most women I know prefer men who don't.
aprilisi Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 Do men really think like this? Makes me hesitant to ever be friendly with a man again. Just stop making eye contact or smiling unless I'm interested. 1
Themanwithaplan Posted July 29, 2014 Posted July 29, 2014 Sometimes girls just want to feel desired or attractive, just like guys. I know I do this sometimes, because I easily forget I am a young decent looking man. I also get intimidated approaching women I don't know, so it's good practice for me to get comfortable making eye contact and smiling... So there are lots of reasons they may give you the impression of wanting to chat. Maybe they're just friendly too! It might help if you just mention something casually(about anything-surroundings etc...), and see how she reacts. If she seems open and friendly, there's your chance to start a conversation. If she seems distant or just closed-off, then be polite and keep moving. This way you're not opening yourself up to rejection or coming off as needy/inexperienced right of the bat.
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