Trane Posted July 28, 2014 Posted July 28, 2014 This is something I can't explain but gradually over the past 10 to 15 years, I have lost interest and desire in the female species. Western cultured women have repeatedly demonstrated to me what they prioritize in a man by their words and actions. Rejection becomes tedious and nauseating when it's thrown at your face on a regular basis. Height, good looks, the allusion of being better protected with a taller guy, being able to wear high heels and still be shorter than the taller guy, and the ability to make her feel feminine and proud to have you on her arm, all at the same time. If you have none of these qualities as a man you become more invisible to them. What you do to make yourself visible will always being scrutinized by people who feel threatened by your actions when they really have no reason to be. There is a direct order of polite discrimination that women and society hold against men who who don't have these physical attributes. It's at its strongest if you're a guy shorter than 5'7. Any actions you take to defend your honour as man in this situation will get you stamped as an aggressive creep with short man syndrome. Women have continually made excuses to not want to be with me so I started doing the same in reverse. I started asking myself what the benefits and rewards are to having a woman in my life or being tied up in a relationship. Needless to say right now there's nothing positive or redeeming about the world of dating for me. Women hold on to and value these qualities very strongly in their formative years until menopause years. Women in their mid-late 50's and early 60's seem to be more open minded about having respect for men of all shapes and sizes. Some do learn at a very early age but most don't. Only a handful of these women have learned that it doesn't pay to discriminate against others based on something that they can't control. I will say truthfully that it's been difficult to live a life devoid of the opposite sex. With concerted efforts I've managed to enjoy many other aspects of my life that would be negated by the presence of the wrong woman. I know that there's always the opportunity to meet that one special lady who will want to share her life with me and mine with hers. I don't waste time or energy believing she exists though. Even holding idol thoughts in my head is dangerous enough so I try to get them out of my head as quickly as possible. It's a waste of life. Any time I get lonely I think of the sky high divorce rate, the marriages I've attended that haven't survived and the plethora of children left damaged from these relationships because they can't choose their parents themselves. These kids could use a good man like me where in most cases their parents failed them and couldn't get their act together. TL;DR I've lost desire for the opposite sex that I've only begun to understand why. I'm not ignoring the chance at happiness in a relationship but I'm not holding my breath that it will happen. Trying to live life to it's fullest without the opposite sex is has it's trying moments but it can be done.
pteromom Posted July 28, 2014 Posted July 28, 2014 There's no rule in life that you MUST be in a relationship to be happy. And if you were just choosing to be single because you are happy on your own, I would say good for you. But your reasons are messed up. Your thinking that you are somehow unwanted and unworthy because of your height. Your focus on your height is unusual and is not in your best interest. Sure, there are women out there who won't date you because of your height. Rather than focus your energy on them and being angry that they want you to be taller even if they are in heels, why not focus on the women who would accept you as you are? It never does you good to focus on the negatives. Always search for the positives. 2
Author Trane Posted July 28, 2014 Author Posted July 28, 2014 There's no rule in life that you MUST be in a relationship to be happy. And if you were just choosing to be single because you are happy on your own, I would say good for you. But your reasons are messed up. Your thinking that you are somehow unwanted and unworthy because of your height. Your focus on your height is unusual and is not in your best interest. Sure, there are women out there who won't date you because of your height. Rather than focus your energy on them and being angry that they want you to be taller even if they are in heels, why not focus on the women who would accept you as you are? It never does you good to focus on the negatives. Always search for the positives. I don't search for the positives in women because I'm not allowed to do so by their physical criteria.
Kamille Posted July 28, 2014 Posted July 28, 2014 Oh look, thread number two on the same topic. As I said in your other thread: Women are a specie all onto themselves, much like dogs would be, is that it? I guess that's issue number one: generalizing from the action of some that the whole group behaves the same way. What you perceive to be true is a distortion or an ideological bender you're indulging in. Good luck with that! 1
Anela Posted July 28, 2014 Posted July 28, 2014 I don't search for the positives in women because I'm not allowed to do so by their physical criteria. You can search for the positives. You might have a better response from them, if you did. 1
pteromom Posted July 28, 2014 Posted July 28, 2014 I don't search for the positives in women because I'm not allowed to do so by their physical criteria. Nobody can control the way you think. YOU choose that. If a woman has physical criteria that excludes you, that's even more reason NOT to let them dictate your reality. I am a chubby middle-aged lady, and if I were single and looking, 95% of available men probably wouldn't date me. But it would be my choice to be sad or angry about that 95%, or to focus on the remaining 5% and try to find a winner in that group. You don't have to be highly desirable to end up happy. If a guy can attract 99% of women, that is STILL no guarantee he is going to find a great woman and end up happy. He can be good looking, rich, tall, and have perfect teeth, and he can still meet a woman who is a cheater, abusive, psychotic, etc. Or HE can be any of those things himself and sabotage his own happiness. In contrast, a guy can be fat, short, bald, and have crooked teeth, and can be rejected by every woman he meets for years, then just happen upon a woman who is a perfect match for him and live happily ever after. But that WON'T happen for him if he is going out into the world with a defeatist attitude, or assuming every woman is some shallow beyotch who won't give him the time of day. You never know what life will bring you. It is healthier to look toward it with hope and openness. If you allow shallow bitter people to turn you into a shallow bitter person, then they've won and you've lost.
slizl Posted July 28, 2014 Posted July 28, 2014 Probably won't score a good woman with that negative attitude. Lighten up a lot and get out there!
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