KenzMichelle Posted July 28, 2014 Posted July 28, 2014 *Names have been changed In December of 2012, my boyfriend, John*, moved to a state by the one I live in. We were dating off and on since August 2011..and in January of 2013, he decided to end it for good. We are both dating different people now. He has been dating Leah* for a little over a year now, and I have been dating Matthew* for almost eleven months. John* still talks about how he wants to reconnect like Ted and Robin in How I Met Your Mother..meaning if we don't marry anyone by the time we are both 30, he wants us to meet somewhere on my birthday (because I'm two years younger than him) and we'll hook up again. I told him no because I wanted to marry someone for the right reason..not just because I'm desperate and no one wants me or him. (This conversation took place last night, by the way) After the conversation, I became tired and fell asleep. I had a dream that I was laying next to him and that he fell asleep. So I decided to lay my head on his chest..then I felt his arms around me. He told me he had missed me so much and wanted me back. That's where the dream ended. I tried so hard to fall back asleep last night and continue the dream, but I couldn't. I cried for hours straight...and I really don't know what to do anymore. I love Matthew* so much..but I love John* too..and I can't tell if he loves me back. Matthew* treats me so much better..but I just really miss John*.
thekid36 Posted July 28, 2014 Posted July 28, 2014 *Names have been changed In December of 2012, my boyfriend, John*, moved to a state by the one I live in. We were dating off and on since August 2011..and in January of 2013, he decided to end it for good. We are both dating different people now. He has been dating Leah* for a little over a year now, and I have been dating Matthew* for almost eleven months. John* still talks about how he wants to reconnect like Ted and Robin in How I Met Your Mother..meaning if we don't marry anyone by the time we are both 30, he wants us to meet somewhere on my birthday (because I'm two years younger than him) and we'll hook up again. I told him no because I wanted to marry someone for the right reason..not just because I'm desperate and no one wants me or him. (This conversation took place last night, by the way) After the conversation, I became tired and fell asleep. I had a dream that I was laying next to him and that he fell asleep. So I decided to lay my head on his chest..then I felt his arms around me. He told me he had missed me so much and wanted me back. That's where the dream ended. I tried so hard to fall back asleep last night and continue the dream, but I couldn't. I cried for hours straight...and I really don't know what to do anymore. I love Matthew* so much..but I love John* too..and I can't tell if he loves me back. Matthew* treats me so much better..but I just really miss John*. What I worry about most of all is that your ex already has left you hanging once. Plus, he only wants to marry you in the future if there is no one else at that point. This does not sound like someone who is putting you first as a partner. Which is what you happen to deserve. It is natural to miss someone you spent a large part of your life with. However, my advice would be to stay with the man who is still by your side. The one who treats you much better.
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