jimbob22 Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 Hello. I’m in sort of state of confusion, and I need a bit of sound advice. Ok, I work in a 8-floor office building, many people, etc. I am 35, Single, and there is this woman who works 2 floors below me. I have known her for about 3 years, and I really like her, and I’m pretty sure she knows. So, just the other week, I heard from 3 people that she likes me as well. So I tried talking to her (I usually talk to her almost every day) and she was real quiet. She would not talk, and it seemed as if she was angry at me (from my point of view). I know she’s not, but it seemed like she was giving me a cold response. I know she wasn’t having a bad day, because she was talking to everybody else. So it was just me she was “ignoring.” So my guess, using my God-given brain, is that she is shy or doesn’t know what to say; she may be uncertain if the rumor was spread around or not, or something like that. And I know that it wasn’t just a made up rumor, because she stares at me at the seminars, and I know it couldn’t be the fact that she is creeped out because she thinks I like her, because I started liking her AFTER I noticed she kinda liked me, if you know what I mean. So anyway, I have the next two weeks off. A time to sort of recoup. The other day I called her, and her roommate (female) answered (she was shopping). So I told her to have her call me, left the info, etc. Two days pass… no call. So I called her again, this time no one was home, and I left a voicemail, said “call me, I gotta talk to you.” Still, two days after that today… no response. SO… What’s up? I know she likes me. But if she does, why is she ignoring me? Is she playing games? any advice? Thank you very much.
sarah12 Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 Are you sure she likes you? That could be the problem. She ignored you at work and then didn't return your calls, most likely because she doesn't want to lead you on. This way she knows she's still 'safe' and hasn't done anything wrong to lead you on. Also, I've seen girls flirt with guys and then totally back off when they know the guy likes them. I have done that once before, backed off from a guy I thought I liked, but only when I found out he didn't turn out to be who I thought he was.
glitter-gal Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 Maybe she was flirting because that is what girls do with mostly everyone of the opposite sex, and not because she was interested in you. Maybe you took her nice behavior toward you as flirting and it was not her intention for you to take it that way?? In any case it seems to me she is not interested and, if by some remote chance she is, would you really want to date a woman who can't express what she wants?? She could turn into one of those chicks that expect you to read her mind at all times & totally won't ever ever tell you what she wants straight up... doesn't sound like a walk in the park relationship to me.
tanbark813 Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 It doesn't sound like she likes you at all. Maybe the people who started the rumors about her liking you are just f*cking with you.
joel Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 this happened to me too the staring and looking part that is. she might be looking at ur clothe4s- is it nice, or hair-i myself had messy hair. u should just ask her out and if she says yes then she into ya if no she ain;t. if she gave u her number it tells me shes into you. she could be a tease since she gave u her number but never phoned u back.
moo Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 i have done this to guys i have stared at them and flirted and thought i kinda like them if they come on too strong after that i run away sounds like you are coming on wayyyy too strong if you talked to her and she didnt talk back much you shouldnt then phone thats heavy if you phone and she doesnt phone back you shouldnt then phone again and say GOTTA talk to you my advice back wayyyy away let her come to you if she is still interested if she doesnt, she isnt sorry
haywood Posted February 25, 2005 Posted February 25, 2005 next time you see her just pretend that nothing happened. just say hi or whatever you usually do. be nonchalant about it. don't let it look like you're bothered. don't call her anymore either. just be confident and always make it seem like you're happy. she'll wonder why she has no effect on you. mentally tell yourself that you're better off without her. seems like she doesn't like way too aggresive guys. good try though. now ease up. don't pay her any extra attention. it'll kill her. she'll come around or you'll forget about her, either way it'll get better. good luck
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