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I posted here a while ago about my fiance who left me because I was pregnant. After 3 weeks of no contact he turned up at my house asking for me back and for a second chance (after numerous texts and calls, which I had missed as phone was on silent, saying how sorry he was). We talked a lot and went out a few days later and it was great. We talked about what had happened and what we were going to do. We kissed and talked for hours and he even talked about setting a date for the wedding and getting things organised for the baby (due in 12 weeks). I'd taken my engagement ring off after he left but he asked me to wear it again that night and I have done. He left that night and I haven't heard from him since...that was 5 weeks ago!? That night he said he loves me so much and wants to be with me and doesn't want me to be with anyone else...

 

I haven't contacted him in this time but I really don't know what is going on? I went to visit his family a few days after we went out and they said he had shown them the scan photo and been talking about us and the baby...but he still hasn't seen or spoken to me since that night... I have started to heal a bit again as my heart was broken again with the lack of contact... I'd like to know what is going on though and what might happen...?

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You probably forgave him too easily. I would have suggested breaking off the engagement seeing as though he has disappeared on you before. When someone does that to you don't be so easy to forgive them. They will think you're a joke.

 

Some people take kindness for weakness. If he shows up again I wouldn't be so receptive. and trust me, he will return.

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That's what's confusing me...I said I would give us a second chance but he had to show me that he meant these things he was saying. He said he did and truly wanted to get back to normal with us and be home playing the xbox, going out etc. He never gave me any sign that night that he was going to go away for good. He even talked about going away for a weekend break and meeting up...but I've heard absolutely nothing and I will not chase him. I'm focusing right now on me and the baby. I'm starting to think he will never talk to me again as he has just vanished...? I've got to start moving on now, it just seems such a waste of 8 years... I've taken my engagement ring off again now, 5 weeks of nothing is just too long...I deserve much better than this.

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Well...

 

He still hasn't contacted me... I'm not sure what to do now other than focus on me and the baby... Why would he come back just to abandon me? Can anyone shed any light on this situation?

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I really can't begin to explain why he left again. Perhaps he's got someone else. Whatever the reason, consider him gone for good. He's shown you he's a royal ass, not capable of being a partner to you or a stand-out parent to the child.

 

I would contact an attorney if I were you. He has responsibilities towards the baby.

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