irc333 Posted July 27, 2014 Posted July 27, 2014 There are some women I know that have a pattern of men that they've dated, exclusively, where once they've gotten intimate with their boyfriends, the boyfriend's true colors would start to show. Now I'm not talking about one night stands where men get what they want and leave immediately, but I'm talking about the men that stick around in relationships because they have sex available 24/7 to them, but het treat the woman like crap. For instance, after a couple of months of dating, he's Mr. Nice Guy, chivalrous, gentleman-like and charming. After they get physical, he's gotten what he's wanted and now can start showing his true colors...a complete jerk. Basically, it's like "I have a girlfriend now, so now I have sex on tap, so I can behave the way I normally do." Of course, she puts up with it for about a year or so until he takes it to an all NEW low and causes her to pack her bags and leave. We ask why women are the initiators in break ups or divorce, and I think this is a rather common reason actually. Men take for granted the situation because they got sex at the ready when they get home or come home for a " quickie" at lunch break. Then one day, the man decides to take it to an all NEW low by performing something so atrocious that it would be something you wouldn't even do to a total stranger that causes her to "Launch"! You may think it's adultery, but I hear some really crazy ones like she gets into an accident and he doesn't show up at the hospital. Or...her car is broken down somewhere in the middle of nowhere and she calls him up and he says, "Sorry, I can't leave work". and it's some two bit Wal-Mart job. I don't know if anyone knows what I'm meaning, but when I hear these stories of how these women are treated in these relationships, some that go one for a year...I was wondering if it was only because she "put out" too soon or something?
anemptycup Posted July 27, 2014 Posted July 27, 2014 in my humble opinion... i think when women put out too soon... and i mean, like on the first or 2nd, even 3rd meeting.... there's going to be a very strong chance from the male's perspective, he's gonna view this as a physical relationship... FOR SURE, if a woman wants a better chance of being with someone who wants her for more than sex, then, she should hold out a bit longer.. and establish a non physical relationship.. the way i see it is... what happens at the start, is the foundation you are building.... if it's purely sex based... that relationship may have great sex.. but, problems getting alone the remaining 90% you are together... i'm speaking as a man, from experience with this... any woman who puts out on the first 2nd or 3rd dates.... i dunno... kinda slutty to me... don't get me worng though... love that ****! what man doesn't like having some sex... you wouldn't be human if you didnt - but, hey, you want a man to look at you for more than just sex - then, you have to build those foundations - if a woman is looking for something long lasting and serious... keep your legs closed for at least the first month... and at least 5-6 dates.... what goes up quickly goes down just as quickly... make it a slow long lasting burner... if that makes sense... good luck.
Priv Posted July 27, 2014 Posted July 27, 2014 (edited) I have several issues with this line of thinking: -I think both genders are on their best behaviour in the beginning of the relationship. -Besides that, you don't stay together for over a year just so have sex on tap. -The hospital thing ok. But from what I understand about walmart and some stuff I have seen IRL, especially low level jobs aren't very kind to your personal life and you can well be fired for leaving. That kind of understanding is reserved for professional environments. -Women do just as atrocious stuff, but indeed, men are less likely to leave. Loads of studies on it too, usually concluding women being more in touch with their emotions so severing things earlier and sooner going for personal happiness. Not that I agree fully with it. -It also is a bit of a Western thing. Basically women > victim, men > perpetrator. Was this question to be asked in the East, you will have a very different outcome. It is a social construct more than anything else. -And finally, I think Piaget was dead wrong. The moral compass is more akin to chaos theory than a pyramid. All hail individualism. Enoug controverial posting for tonight Edited July 27, 2014 by Priv
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