Really need you guys!!

[sandra parker]

Hello again everyone,

I have not posted ina while, but I hop in here daily tos ee how everyone is doing.

I am in need of advice again. I was with a fellow for five years. Issue to cause break-up 6 months ago: commitment (his inability totake things further). I have a 16 year old who he became like a father to while we were together. My ex hooked up with someone from work (17 years younger) five weeks after we broke up. She has a 2 year old baby. I argued with him and ny boy to stop communication with one another because it was hurtful to me. In the end, I relented because my son seem to be totally devasted with his loss. Throughout our time apart, my ex has become a sugar daddy to my son, purchasing him things that I as a single parent could never afford. Myson has become nasty toward me since the break-up and I have tried to discuss things with him without success. Now, my ex is buying him a brand new car, putting it in his(ex) name and the insurance too. I have raised four children alone. I have made so many sacrifices for them. They don't appreciate me and my boy has been treating me awful as of lately. I can't compete with my ex as far as the gifts go, and my son is not interested in hearing what I have to say,

I have decided to pack up and move to Florida to live with my parents and start a new life. My ex bought a home a few blocks away from me and I can't bear to see him and her around.

I have set up a meeting between my ex, my son and I for tomorrow night. I am ginf to let them know that I am noving and since my son seems to have a much better relationship with him (ex) that he should raise him through his last year of high school. I know my ex is going to say no to my son, but I want him to do so in front of him so myson can see for himself his place in my ex's new life.

I know that this seems so drastic, but I can't take it anymore. If I stay here, I will be dealing with all this crap forever. I can't go no contact because of my son and I just stay in a limbo situation waiting for the next thing to happen.

I love my son dearly, but I feel betrayed by him and I know that he is only 16 and is so impressed by the money my ex keeps shoveling out for him.

What do you all thinnk about this I currently live in Michigan and am a school teaher. I lost my job because of depression over my break-up and there are noi teaching jobs here. There are plenty of those in FLA.

Thanks everyone, Sandra

[Moose]

I think your son is a typical teenager. I went through the seperation thingy with my Dad, and it was hard too. He bought me all kinds of junk and threw his money at me too. Sure, I wanted to be with him because after all, this is all free stuff! Well, it didn't change my love for my mom even though it may have looked that way while it was going on. I didn't think that she was abandoning me, she was letting me live my life. I know you feel betrayed, but I really don't think your son realizes how you feel.