starla33 Posted July 27, 2014 Posted July 27, 2014 So lately I decided to give most guys a 2nd date that I thought were decent even if I don't feel much. Had a 2nd date yesterday still don't feel much. The guy is nice and not terrible looking, but I'm still not feeling it. I think he just has not made me laugh once. Should I give it one more date or forget it?
preraph Posted July 27, 2014 Posted July 27, 2014 I would just say that if you do go on a third date knowing it will probably be the last unless lightning strikes him and he suddenly becomes animated, that you might offer to pay for the date so when you cut him loose at least he doesn't feel you just used him, which I know you didn't. If you feel he might be a little shy, maybe he'll unwind, but if that's not it and you just aren't stimulated by his conversation, probably no point in going out some more. 1
chimpanA-2-chimpanZ Posted July 27, 2014 Posted July 27, 2014 Oooh, I feel for you. After a profound heartbreak I decided that feelings were stupid and that my best bet was to just find someone who wouldn't hurt me. For seven months I dated a guy that was everything I wanted on paper, gorgeous, and incredibly good to me. But I didn't want to initiate sex, I was emotionally distant, and I never once felt as though I was falling in love with him. I forged ahead anyway, desperately trying to convince myself that we had real chemistry. In the end I just wasted his time and mine and caused him a fair amount of heartbreak. The real deal may be hard to find, but it's out there. Don't settle. 3
Assasda Posted July 27, 2014 Posted July 27, 2014 Youre looking for the guy to make you laugh. If you bored most of the time, youre proabably a boring person
stillafool Posted July 27, 2014 Posted July 27, 2014 I would say do not go on another date if he bores you. What is the purpose? If I were you I would not date unless I felt a spark for him prior to the date.
Diezel Posted July 27, 2014 Posted July 27, 2014 Can you describe your previous two dates with this guy? I'm curious. Could you get specific? I'm wondering how one man or woman can go on two dates and not even have humor involved in it.
Author starla33 Posted July 28, 2014 Author Posted July 28, 2014 Can you describe your previous two dates with this guy? I'm curious. Could you get specific? I'm wondering how one man or woman can go on two dates and not even have humor involved in it. I thought about it and when he touched my back or anything it made me cringe a little. So clearly I'm just not attracted to him
d0nnivain Posted July 28, 2014 Posted July 28, 2014 I'm a big believer in chemistry. It's either their or it's not. As an adult I was willing to give 2 dates just in case the guy was nervous the 1st date but if after 2 dates it wasn't working, there is no need to continue wasting your time or his. 1
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