That_girl Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 There's this guy I've been seeing on and off for about 4 years. At first, things weren't too serious, but this past summer we've really gotten closer and after a 5 month break (we both needed space), we've recently realized that we seriously want to be together. I kind of feel like I love him, I'm not exactly sure but I know that I have really strong feelings for him because I just can't seem to get enough of him. The only problem is I just can't sleep with him even though I know that he really cares about me. I've never slept with anyone before, but I know I'm ready because I really want to do it with HIM, not just for the sake of doing it. The fact that he's been waiting so long for me is kind of scary though...I feel like the second I give in, and let him be with me like that he's just going to hurt me and turn all a**h*** on me, the way many 19 year old boys do. I also feel like I must have held out for so long for a reason, and even though I care about him more than ever now, I might be making a mistake by sleeping with him. Does anyone here ever have these doubts? Maybe I'm just contemplating this much more because I'm a virgin and I want to make sure this is right, but how will I ever know if sex is the right thing to do at this point? I feel horrible and guilty making him wait so long because he tells me constantly how bad he wants me. It even got to the point where he begged on his hands and knees. I'm very attracted to him, and I want him really bad too but I'm just too afraid to let my guard down. Should I give into my heart, or go with my gut?
glitter-gal Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 Here are some of the things I know... some guys take pride in being a girls first for bragging rights with his friends, but then again there are some guys who really care for that girl and wouldn't want to have that experience with anyone else. I think you know this guy pretty well. Can you step back from the situation and evalutate it without using your emotions?? Sometimes that is the best way to make a desision. Of course if you have sex with him for the first time ever in your life, how hard will you take it if he just drops you like a hot potato?? Any girl would be heart-broken of course but if you would be hurt to the point of thinking life is over for you I think it's a safe bet to assume you should NOT have sex with him, no matter how right it may seem to you. I guess you have to find out how much your virginity means to you, would you give it to someone you probably won't be spending the rest of your life with? Or do you want the first time to be with someone you trust and care for weather or not you are together at the end of the school year? There are a lot of questions that you need to find the answer to... the best answers usually come when you spend time with yourself and listen to your internal dialogue. (or at least that's how it works for me)
tattoomytoe Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 well, since your feeling are conflicting..... i would wait. no harm in waiting! you cannot take back your virginity or having sex, so might as well wait until you are sure, or at least more sure than you are now.
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