Cathy812 Posted July 26, 2014 Posted July 26, 2014 Hello I met this guy through a best mate of mine we where messaging each other and we all went on a night out a week after me and this guy kissed. Over the next week he texted me loads and even put posts on my Facebook and told my mates he liked me. I went to his on thurs and stayed till sat, as I have been suffering with a really bad ear infection. We did sleep together it was nice. On Saturday I went to a and e because I was in so much pain cos of my ear. This guy was amazing messaged me loads and stuff I had to go in twice that day once in an ambulance and he was really supportive and lovely. Two days after he changed from calling me babe and texting me loads to me always initiating. He told me because of the raf he can't commit we said we would c what happens. I asked him where do I stand he won't say now. I sent a goodbye text no reply. I need to get my health back. He didn't reply he told my mate he likes me bt I was rushing. He messaged me back about a and e but won't answer my question. The doctor told me the last medication caused anxiety hence y I was ott with him. It wasn't me. Please help I like this guy I feel I have messed things up What should I do? Cat
ExpatInItaly Posted July 26, 2014 Posted July 26, 2014 Don't automatically assume that this is all your fault and you somehow made a huge mistake. Based on what you posted, I don't see that you did anything wrong, unless you're leaving out important details. He could simply not want a relationship at the moment. He could have met someone else. You say you were "off" with him. In what way? What did you say or do?
USMCHokie Posted July 26, 2014 Posted July 26, 2014 Simple answer: he's just not that into you. You had sex, and it may or may not have been good for him. Or maybe he just wanted to get some and go on with his life. Or the timing of your ear infection with staying over with me may have turned him off. Who knows. Either way, his actions demonstrate lack of interest at this point. Life goes on...
Assasda Posted July 26, 2014 Posted July 26, 2014 Well you barely know the guy, He over pursued you, then you slept with him. He probably thinks that you do that with all guys, once you get attention. The medication didnt cause any anxiety if youre being frank, you want him back, but its over. When it all happens, that fast, its not real. It only ends faster
Kamila Posted July 26, 2014 Posted July 26, 2014 You didn't mess things up, you learned a valuable lesson. Take it as experience. And as an above poster said, you don't know the guy that well. You don't know who he is. You 'only' slept with him. Next time you meet a guy, try to delay the physical aspect. Try to learn to know the guy. If he's touchy, horny or doesn't want to talk about more deep stuff, then you know he's not ready for a relationship. Let him come to you slowly. If he comes on very strong, then it's a signal that it will end very fast.
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