buddythedog Posted July 26, 2014 Posted July 26, 2014 How can i overcome the hateful feeling of my boyfriends ex wife? She had a child and he was about four when he started dating her. He was in his life for 9 years and then they split. He still has weekly contact with his ex because they say they need to talk about "their son" yet he lives with his biological son and his wife three states away. He comes to visit about once a month. This kid is 17, he has a phone, why does my boyfriend still have to have contact with the ex wife? Am i being crazy? I hate that they talk at all.
SolG Posted July 26, 2014 Posted July 26, 2014 Folk divorce husbands/wives, not children; biological or otherwise. Someone who is a father for all intents and purposes and primary male role model in a boy's life for that long at those ages has an ongoing parental responsibility to that child. I would say for life. And until that child is self sufficient and an adult (finished college, out of home, etc), it is fitting that his parents continue to co-parent. I think they are doing the right and responsible thing and you should accept it and even support your H in this. Is there something about the way he interacts with his xW that makes you uncomfortable? or is it merely the fact that they interact at all?
Author buddythedog Posted July 26, 2014 Author Posted July 26, 2014 He gets random texts saying hi asking how he is and so forth. I accept he parents but why do they need to have a relationship. He lives with biological dad and his wife. There is no reason I can think of to still talk to her, it's a triangle when all it has to be is a straight line between boy and my boyfriend. ?
d0nnivain Posted July 26, 2014 Posted July 26, 2014 From the bio dad's perspective your BF is his Ex-wife's EX-BF. Does he allow contact between your BF & the son? If not, your BF's EX may be his only link to the kid. Even if the son is not his bio child, for 5 years he co-parented the kid. Try to celebrate the fact that your BF is the kind of good guy who doesn't abandon children. 1
Author buddythedog Posted July 26, 2014 Author Posted July 26, 2014 my boyfriend does have a good relationship with the biological dad he picks up and drops him off every month. I have been with this guy for about three years I knew the situation going in but for some reason it's really bothering me now. the only situation that is bothering me is between my boyfriend and the ex wife I don't think there needs to be it a relationship at all. thank you for all the replies you guys are putting some things into perspective for me
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