muddy Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 ok i've just got out of a bad relationship and started dating. its not gone too well so far and last week i met up with an ex through mutual friends after about 5 years since we split the relationship we had before was like this he was on the rebound and i fell in love with him, he ended up just ignoring me, not telling me it was over or anything, he was also in quite a bad state with his life at that time thing is before thn we had been really good friends well we met up and it was nice but he was obviously gearing things towards the bedroom well i was totally feeling bad cuz of this relationship and then all the bad dates i thought it was a good idea at the time and didnt think i would regret it or feel anything for him other than as friend again i was wrong he said something like well this is good for both of us cuz we we're both feeling bad does it sound like he really just sees me as someone who makes him feel better at bad times in his life?
Sckott Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 So you went to bed with him? Sounds like he's not the type to commit. You certainly don't know his feelings about having a real relationship, right? Make sure you know what you want, here. Falling in an old relationship only works if you're both heading in the same direction. He was right though. You're both feeling bad and you're both lonely. Not sure if there's any depth in the friendship so it really sounds like two people, semi-depressed and bored, open to suggestions (sex, f-buddies). If you have feelings on the line, you're bound to get hurt... If you can't build the friendship and trust up....
muddy Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 yes i went to bed with him, yes thats what he was saying, (afterwards, well kinda inbetween) we're both semi-depressed bored its good to cheer each other up, do you think that was his get out clause he was making sure i wasnt taking it seriously? i mean he didnt NEED to say it did he? thing is it would be a long distance thing anyway he lives miles away he gave me his new address etc and told me to write him
Sckott Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 He didn't need to say that, no, and maybe that's what you both needed at the time, but this doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. It really seems as if you both need strength in your love lives, and maybe the sex was good, but I'd say just BE friends with him and when the smoke clears, be on the lookout for someone special that you can share a relationship with. Sounds like you need the stable, nice guy.
muddy Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 Yes, you are right. Thank-you. I need someone who is really strong.
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