Sweet108 Posted July 25, 2014 Posted July 25, 2014 Dated then exclusive for around 11 months. He broke it off by saying feelings were not there anymore. No contact dissolved because he offered to do some things for me that I couldn't do myself. I accepted the bribe. Mistake #1. Mistake #2 was agreeing to be "friends" Four months later, we drink too much during a celebratory event and end up having sex. Mistake #4! He says he is friends with a lot of exes, and is happy for them when they get a new SO. Yet I pointed out two locally from 2+ years ago that he was absolutely not "happy" for when they found another bf and eventually married. Red flag I ignored, Mistake #5. His longest relationship was 1 year, most are three months. We are not twentysomethings. He took a friend on vacation from home country to "fulfill her wish to want to go to this vacation place". Beforehand he was telling half truths until I confronted when things didn't add up. I mean at this time we were just fwb, not in a committed relationship, why lie about it? He would never go for this if the situations were reversed. For a person who seems so kind and generous, he has acted in a self centered way, not thinking about how he would feel if he were in my shoes. This was the last straw for me. I realized I had to go NC for good. "Friend" or not to this vacation partner I don't even want to go back to friend even with stopping the benefits part. Side note during the vaca he was commenting on facebok on attractive women's photos. Friend-zoned is terrible even if you have no or small tiny amount of feelings. It's a message that screams, "hey you aren't good enough" or it feels like they pity you. I'm angry at myself for doing all of those mistakes. My self esteem went in the gutter. I feel like I want to hide. Don't do what I did. Stay NC! Don't agree to be friends or fwb . Your situation is not special or unique, even if he does a lot of nice things for you, or is a certain religion, or really doesn't seem like a ladies man or in any way gives an excuse to think he's different. He's not!
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