SG19765 Posted July 25, 2014 Posted July 25, 2014 OK guys, been in a relationship for 6 months. I honestly have never fell in love let alone this quick. We both had ****ty past relationships. The problem is I let me GF lead me to believe that her past relationships were all ****ty due to the guys and not her. I always knew she was lieing about her previous relationship because the stories didn't match up, was just waiting for her to come clean. I laid it all out there when we talked about this stuff. Anyways turns out I was lead to believe she was always the victim and just isn't the truth, and what she lied about was a pretty big thing and she should have told me prior to 6 months especially if she originally led me on to believe it was something totally different, letting me walk around feeling bad for her and all this other crap. Anyways, truth came out the other night and I feel like I am disgusted, for the simple fact that she let me walk around feeling sorry for her for that long and legit trying to be a better guy then I was in the past, only to find out it was all bull****. I truly feel we have fell in love over the past couple months, but after this just feel like I have lost that spark. Sounds stupid and I'm not dwelling on the past, that **** is gone. I just feel like she led me to believe she was someone else for the past 6 months and now don't know which direction to take. Anyone ever run into this situation? Does the spark ever come back. It's only been a few days but I kind of feel a little resentment for her, simply because I swore I would never let myself go in a relationship and I finally do and this is the **** I deal with.
d0nnivain Posted July 25, 2014 Posted July 25, 2014 Are you sure she lied? Many people revise history in their own heads & truly believe the version that makes them look better. If you really can't deal with what you learned, get out. If she has been sweet & good to you, find a way to judge her on her current behaviors not past actions that didn't involve you.
Author SG19765 Posted July 25, 2014 Author Posted July 25, 2014 Im not worried about the past. Hers is minescule. Just the fact that I once give everything.i have to make someone happy because I feel they got were I was coming from. Just to find out more or less she was the one giving everyone the **** end of the stick. Feel like she just told me stuff to keep me giving what I was giving.
Mr Scorpio Posted July 25, 2014 Posted July 25, 2014 Six-months seems a bit early to lose the "spark". While it isn't clear from your post exactly what lie she told you, it does seem clear that she deceived and manipulated you in order to make you feel sorry for her. If that is the case than perhaps you should bail.
Author SG19765 Posted July 27, 2014 Author Posted July 27, 2014 Ok going to come clean with you guys. I think I over reacted. My buddy talked some sense into me. I cheated early on in this relationship, which was wrong. So I probably had this coming. Karma? Regardless she didn't cheat on me or anything so I'm probably the one who should be kissing ass and not being judgemental. We made out peace yesterday. We truly do love each other, just sometimes it's tough with that **** laying on my head. Maybe I'm expecting her to make up for my downfalls.
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