emotionsmessmeup Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 when ur FWB tells u.."u shud go n date someone" OK I HAVENT HAD THE SEX YET but he is trying to do me.. he holds my ass in public.. and then be like oh u need to date someone..... URGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
EC Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 Give yourself more respect. Don't let him grab your ass in public and then tell you to go date someone. Kick him in the nuts and tell him to f*ck off.
iceisles Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 Ask him what he means. It sounds like he just considers you a strict FWB, and he probably has others if he's not concerned about you meeting someone. Guys don't let sex get away unless they have someone else who will give it to them. He could also be frustrated that you two haven't done it yet.
Author emotionsmessmeup Posted February 23, 2005 Author Posted February 23, 2005 how could frustration make him say that?
iceisles Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 Originally posted by emotionsmessmeup how could frustration make him say that? Easily. He wants you. You haven't done it with him yet. You know how guys get when they want it and feel like they are being turned down. He could be saying that to get your attention, i.e. "Hey, are we going to do it or not? Because if not, you might as well find someone else." P.S. Check your PM's.
Author emotionsmessmeup Posted February 23, 2005 Author Posted February 23, 2005 ok i need luck with this one.. although i have a feeling he is gonna say....i dont think we cud ever date...and i just wanted to get my point across...
Author emotionsmessmeup Posted February 23, 2005 Author Posted February 23, 2005 wait..is he gonna run away if i tell him i need to talk to u..?
iceisles Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 Originally posted by emotionsmessmeup wait..is he gonna run away if i tell him i need to talk to u..? If he does, he's not worth your time or effort. Hopefully he will agree to have a mature, sensible conversation. Just don't do it on the phone - see if you can meet for coffee or something.
Merin Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 ::Merin peeks in:: Emotionsmessmeup... I know from your last thread about this guy, you seem to be pretty crazy about him.. and from what you said in your last thread about this guy.. he has told you on more than one occassion that he is still hung up on his GF and hoping they will get back together.. I know I didn't tell you what you wanted to hear yesterday.. and sorry, but today isn't any exception... When someone is telling you they are hung up on someone else (and in his case he's in love with someone else) Please.. believe them and move on. You're better than this.. if you continue to *sweat* this guy it's going to make him run faster and further.. if you want to remain friends.. then all you.. BUT please.. leave this guy alone regarding this becoming anything more than what it is right now.. if he was down for something with you he WOULDN'T be telling you to date someone else.
Author emotionsmessmeup Posted February 23, 2005 Author Posted February 23, 2005 whyis he messing with me then.. he knows i havent slept with anyone else except my bf...
Merin Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 Originally posted by emotionsmessmeup whyis he messing with me then.. he knows i havent slept with anyone else except my bf... Why does it matter? He isn't sleeping with you. He isn't *dating* you. He's told you to move on and date other people.. So I guess I don't see how he's messing with you? No one can do anything to you that YOU DON'T ALLOW.
iceisles Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 Originally posted by Merin Why does it matter? He isn't sleeping with you. He isn't *dating* you. He's told you to move on and date other people.. So I guess I don't see how he's messing with you? No one can do anything to you that YOU DON'T ALLOW. Once again, Merin has hit the nail on the head. I don't techinically think he is messing with you. In fact, he was just being honest, and that's admirable even if it hurts.
blind_otter Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 Originally posted by emotionsmessmeup when ur FWB tells u.."u shud go n date someone" OK I HAVENT HAD THE SEX YET but he is trying to do me.. he holds my ass in public.. and then be like oh u need to date someone..... URGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH YOU need to draw the line, and say "STOP" when he acts inappropriately. If you don't respect yourself, how can expect anyone else to?
glitter-gal Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 [color=indigo]AMEN SISTERS!! Stand up for yourself for girl! Just because you are female doesn't mean that you have to let men rule you. Shoot, I only let my man rule me (when I want him to) and mostly that's just in the sack... otherwise we go halvsies on the power/ control/ i wanna be boss issues. *you know this color thing is pretty sweet... it doesn't take much to amuse me i guess, hee hee![/color]
clynn Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 Yeah. I mean if you like having your ass grabbed and your happy with fun and flirty behavior and it doesn't twist you up too badly, then, what the heck? I often go for flirty and fun with someone because it boosts my ego, makes me feel good. As long as you know what YOU are getting from it. But it sounds as though you want a lot more than that and it isn't going to happen. Come right out and have a conversation, straight forward, if you think there is a chance. Otherwise, move on. MERIN gives very good advice. When someone says they are hung up on someone...they are. They're telling the truth. You can't change that. It is for him to work it out. The more you want it to change, the less appealing you'll be. Good luck!
WHATINTHE... Posted February 23, 2005 Posted February 23, 2005 I dont understand the issue here. You guys aren't a couple, not dating, not even having sex and yor asking why he said for you to date other people?
Author emotionsmessmeup Posted February 23, 2005 Author Posted February 23, 2005 I cant belive this doesnt seem like an issue to anyone.. He is in my close circle of freinds 1) Beggining to put in in there just once... 2) Giving me a love bite in public and when i scream he goes like... its just me 3) Holding my hand while drivig together 4) Wishing me happy valentines first thing in the morning.. I dont even want anything..but when u are ****ing a guy..on a regular basis..(trying to..going to..whatever) u dont wanna hear ... U shud date someone...! WHO THINKS I AM WRONG?
Author emotionsmessmeup Posted February 23, 2005 Author Posted February 23, 2005 i am just gonna tell him i dont understand why u feel the need to tell me everytime i talk to u that i should date someone.... if u think i am getting attached u r wrong.. yes i like u and i care for u....but i am not getting atatched.. maybe somewhere a little part of me wants to in the future..but right now i wanna eb single...and i know u r trying to get over ur whole ex thing as well...
Merin Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 Originally posted by emotionsmessmeup I cant belive this doesnt seem like an issue to anyone.. WHO THINKS I AM WRONG? ::Raises hand:: I think you're wrong.. and for real, I'm sorry.. You're hung up on him and he isn't feeling it like that.. so honestly I think your ego is hurt here more than anything..
blind_otter Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 Originally posted by emotionsmessmeup 1) Beggining to put in in there just once... 2) Giving me a love bite in public and when i scream he goes like... its just me 3) Holding my hand while drivig together 4) Wishing me happy valentines first thing in the morning.. WHO THINKS I AM WRONG? I think you are wrong...sorry. But those actions and stuff are inappropriate if you are not involved, that is, if you haven't made some kind of verbal acknowledgement that you guys are dating. So, you are in the wrong for letting someone slobber all over you when he obviously just wants sex and not a relationship. Just because a guy wants to f*ck you doesn't mean he wants to be INVOLVED with you. Guys will f*ck almost anything that walks and has tits and a vagina, as long as she is somewhat attractive (and I've even seen some guys go for the nastiest skanks you've seen). F*cking and wanting to f*ck does not equal a relationship. And I wished all my friends a happy v-day (with my speech about the corporate materialism of a commerically based holiday).
glitter-gal Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 I think you are wrong and quite possibly in denial about your feelings for him. when u are ****ing a guy..on a regular basis..(trying to..going to..whatever) u dont wanna hear ... U shud date someone...! If all there is between you and him is sex and you dont want to be in a relationship with him, WHO CARES if he tells you to go find someone to date?? I mean, come on, isn't that what you are doing? ~~>Having sex with him just to pass the time until you get a man that you want to be with??
Author emotionsmessmeup Posted February 24, 2005 Author Posted February 24, 2005 i am gonna tell him exacly how i feel... hez a mature guy.....he'll know when he needs to space out.
CurlyIam Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 Girl... take your time. Don't do anything rash here. I think you shouldn't have sex with him, you're already head over hills inlove. Sex will make your recovery very very difficult. I may sound bitchy here, but why don't you follow his advice? Like go out on a date? Maybe you'll realise what you're missing out - like a guy who wants you for yourself and plays no stupid games, oreen if he does, at least he has a the tought of a relationship when he's thinking about you... That's what you're going through: he does not give you a relationship, but enjoys all the benefits of one (including exclusivity). Deny him that. Maybe... maybe it will make him wonder I take his last statement as his way of giving you his message: he does not want you emotionally involved. Too bad, you're already there. Him telling you that is under no circumstances "noble". Is coward, because he does not stand by his actions. Just see how long you can take this. I'm afraid it's not a very sane relationship for you. Take your time and think about this. Curly
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