aab45 Posted July 25, 2014 Posted July 25, 2014 So I find dating very frustrating. I'm 33 years old and have had one girlfriend. I feel like I have a lot to offer but never have any success. I'm 5'6" which is short for a guy. It appears that the dating pool for a guy like me is a lot smaller. Most women I encounter in the online dating world are looking for like at least 5'11". Just looking for some feedback from the ladies about what qualities they value in a man and how much height matters.
Winterina Posted July 25, 2014 Posted July 25, 2014 So I find dating very frustrating. I'm 33 years old and have had one girlfriend. I feel like I have a lot to offer but never have any success. I'm 5'6" which is short for a guy. It appears that the dating pool for a guy like me is a lot smaller. Most women I encounter in the online dating world are looking for like at least 5'11". Just looking for some feedback from the ladies about what qualities they value in a man and how much height matters. I'll be the first to admit that hight was important for me until I met a guy that was shorter than me (about your hight). We are together and I love him, and I do not even look at anyone else. So let me ask you: what else do you have to offer? For the right girl you will be the center of the universe if you offer her love, friendship, protection, honesty... Take heart, not everyone is superficial. Plus, there are many girls out there shorter than you. I now do not know why I wanted a guy taller than me, guess it is automatic and I did not really think about it. It does not matter at all. Ask me specific things if you need to, I'd be happy to answer and give you some confidence. 2
Noproblem Posted July 25, 2014 Posted July 25, 2014 So I find dating very frustrating. I'm 33 years old and have had one girlfriend. I feel like I have a lot to offer but never have any success. I'm 5'6" which is short for a guy. It appears that the dating pool for a guy like me is a lot smaller. Most women I encounter in the online dating world are looking for like at least 5'11". Just looking for some feedback from the ladies about what qualities they value in a man and how much height matters. Yeah, I agree. You know I am 5.4 and if a guy is 5.6 and good looking and has the things that I care about, then it's not a problem for me I will always be sad for the fact he is not tall enough, but eh! What ever I don't like tall guys ... 5.11 is the max for me ... but I always feel very sad and bad for guys who are shorter than me so not fair on the other hand, there is this nice looking guy at my gym. He is shorter than me and he is dating a girl who is taller than me, so I guess, it's about how you look and how you speak!
PogoStick Posted July 25, 2014 Posted July 25, 2014 I just talked with a girl who is 5'0 who told me she likes guys who are at least 6 feet! 1
leavesonautumn Posted July 25, 2014 Posted July 25, 2014 I'm 5'2 and have only dated guys 5'10 and taller (tallest being 6'6). I don't think it has anything to do with me specifically finding a taller guy to date but because they like shorter girls. However, I have no issues dating a guy who is shorter. If people are specifically looking for someone at a certain height, they're going to be disappointed because their dating pool just gets smaller and smaller. A good friend of mine is 5'9 and her fiance is about 5'7. She said if there is one thing she could change about him, it would be that but she has never expressed that to him directly or had any real issues with it because of the person who he is. They've been 7 years strong.
CK1dad Posted July 25, 2014 Posted July 25, 2014 OP .. I am 5'6" and have had no problem attracting women. Don't worry about it man. Realistically ask yourself if a lady is so hung up on height over actual quality things that you may bring to a relationship would you really want to be with her ? I wouldn't. OLD for me did just not work out as far as the height thing. I friken hate OLD it is so inorganic. The last straw for me is when I messaged a lady she wrote me back saying "you seem like an awesome guy! The only thing is your 5'6' and I'm 5'7" so sorry". My message in return was "we are all the same height lying down!!!" After that I deleted my OLD account. Although it didn't work out I just finished dating a gorgeous woman who was around 5'4". I personally like shorter stature women because I'm shorter but 1 inch either way .. come on!! 1
Assasda Posted July 25, 2014 Posted July 25, 2014 the problem is, if you are hung up about your height, then women will be too. Thats about the long and short of it. The US average height of men is 5'9 - So those women who are seeking 5'11 guys are seeking guys above average, which is foolish and they dont even know. The World average for men is 5'8, but it really doesnt matter. I know a guy that is 5'2 and has no problem whatso ever. Hey Prince the singer is 5''2 1
Els Posted July 25, 2014 Posted July 25, 2014 Falling ShortOh boy. Unfortunate choice of title... or was it intended? If it was, +50 points from me... Anyway, my SO is 5'7". He's incredibly attractive to me, even now, 6 years down the line. My ex was almost 6'0" - I left him. Don't worry about it.
Els Posted July 25, 2014 Posted July 25, 2014 I now do not know why I wanted a guy taller than me, guess it is automatic and I did not really think about it. I think it's quite normal for girls to want someone taller. I probably wouldn't be attracted to shorter, but being 5'1", that has never turned out to be an issue... Given that the average female height is shorter than the OP, though, he's still taller than >50% of girls.
mangetout Posted July 25, 2014 Posted July 25, 2014 Height doesn't bother me. I have had reltionships with men from 5ft 5 to 6 ft 3. Its about spark and attraction and that can come in any form.
PegNosePete Posted July 25, 2014 Posted July 25, 2014 I am bald and divorced, so what? You are what you are. It's about how you sell yourself. So if one woman doesn't like you because you're too short, don't have hair or have a past, so what? Just move onto the next. There are plenty out there, you just have to find one that likes you as you are.
Gaeta Posted July 25, 2014 Posted July 25, 2014 Widen your search by including other ethnicity. I am 5'3'' and I am average for women my culture, my adult daughter is 5'1''.
Author aab45 Posted July 25, 2014 Author Posted July 25, 2014 If I were you, I'd run far away from the online dating world. One of my best friends is on there now, and according to him, more and more women are saying they want someone 6' and over. Many won't even talk to you because of your height. If you really do have a lot to offer, it will take some time before women will start to realize this. You won't get the chance to show them online, because they won't even talk to you. Yes, this is what I've discovered after trying OLD many times. I think I'm going to change my approach and try to meet more people through social activities. I'll be the first to admit that hight was important for me until I met a guy that was shorter than me (about your hight). We are together and I love him, and I do not even look at anyone else. So let me ask you: what else do you have to offer? For the right girl you will be the center of the universe if you offer her love, friendship, protection, honesty... Take heart, not everyone is superficial. Plus, there are many girls out there shorter than you. I now do not know why I wanted a guy taller than me, guess it is automatic and I did not really think about it. It does not matter at all. Ask me specific things if you need to, I'd be happy to answer and give you some confidence. People have described me as honest, funny, trustworthy, intelligent, and physically fit. I suppose my quiet/reserved personality hinders my ability to meet people in general and that is part of the problem. on the other hand, there is this nice looking guy at my gym. He is shorter than me and he is dating a girl who is taller than me, so I guess, it's about how you look and how you speak! I do see a lot of nice looking girls at the gym but I think it would be too awkward to approach them. Oh boy. Unfortunate choice of title... or was it intended? If it was, +50 points from me... Yep, the title was intended
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