Jam23 Posted July 25, 2014 Posted July 25, 2014 So there's this girl I hooked up with a while back ago. It was in January and we stayed in touch for a while. Unfortunately we were both coming off pretty bad relationships so neither of us were really ready for something serious. So about six months have passed and we don't really talk all that much anymore. Now her best friend is my best friends wife, so I usually see her through them. Saturday was my birthday (it was also hers) so naturally we hung out with friends. Now I've had a crush on her for a long time now, so when my friend told me she was coming over my face lit up like it never has before. I am terrified of rejection, so I don't take the risks I should be taking to actually start a relationship. But whenever she see's me she gives me a big hug and a huge smile. Hell once I was waiting on food and she was there and she just walked up behind me and grabbed and hugged me. Her friend tells me she doesn't usually hug other guys cause she knows they take it the wrong way. Her friend also tells me that she likes me a lot she is just nervous I might turn into all the other guys she has dated. I really want to make a move but I'm terrified I'm misreading her. Not sure what I should do.
Mr Scorpio Posted July 25, 2014 Posted July 25, 2014 I've never ascertained a concrete definition of "hooked-up", but I'll assume that it involved enough physical contact as to demonstrate that this woman doesn't find you revolting. Beyond that, she continues to make physical contact with you, and smiles at you. It seems to me that your risk-reward ratio is heavily skewed towards reward. There doesn't appear to be much risk here.
Author Jam23 Posted July 25, 2014 Author Posted July 25, 2014 Well I've tried on several different occasions to hang out. Sometimes she's game but other times she already has plans. The way my ex left was so devastating for me that I haven't ever really recovered my self confidence. So despite what friends tell me are clear signs she is attracted to me, I still doubt myself. And these aren't just my friends, they are her friends as well. One of which is like a sister to her.
rewl Posted July 25, 2014 Posted July 25, 2014 She doesn't want a relationship with you, don't even think about it. I hate to tell you the truth.
Mr Scorpio Posted July 25, 2014 Posted July 25, 2014 Well I've tried on several different occasions to hang out. Sometimes she's game but other times she already has plans. You mean... she is willing to spend time with you, assuming she doesn't have a prior obligation?
Author Jam23 Posted July 25, 2014 Author Posted July 25, 2014 Well it was months ago when we were actually hanging out, in fact the first time we had spoken to each other in almost a month was last Saturday and until that point I thought she was avoiding me (not sure why, just a lot of self doubt I guess), but yea, your right Mr Scorpio, my reasons for not taking a risk are unfounded. I'm just gonna go for it like I should have done a long time ago.
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