ReluctantRomeo Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 Originally posted by _Saffy_ ok, as i said, i trust you, and you clearly can see better into his head than i can......yesterdays emails proved this.....so how do i react if he tries to kiss me?? the last thing i want is for him to think that i dont want to.....believe me, this guy is hot!! think eminem and you got him! Well, I guess I'm able to resist eminem myself If he tries to kiss you, do something humourous, mysterious, like.... I don't know, *you*'re the woman.... like push him away with your finger on his lips saying "naughty, naughty, you want to leave something for later, don't you?". Or "whoa cowboy, not yet" and give him a wink. I'm not doing well on this piece of advice.... you're the girl - what can you think of?
Author _Saffy_ Posted February 24, 2005 Author Posted February 24, 2005 hahahahhahaha, yeah im sure i will think of something i gotta be honest that did kinda make me laugh
SuperFantastico Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 And keep it humerous. No wierd uncomfortable pause after(i mean if he does and you deny him.) to let him know that you still want to be kissed by him, just not right now.
greeneyedgirl23 Posted February 24, 2005 Posted February 24, 2005 Hi! I am in a similar situation. I find myself shutting guys out who approach me and try to flirt. I am in love with my best guy friend as well. He has this way of keeping me around and it makes me crazy sometimes. You should read my posting from a couple of days ago.... We are emotionally close, and I think it's when he starts to feel something that he runs. I wish i could give you some good advice on what you should do next, but i dont know what to do either. I wanted to send you a reply to let you know that you are not the only one going through this!!! You will have to let me know how it goes!
Author _Saffy_ Posted February 25, 2005 Author Posted February 25, 2005 thanks SF, and green. if it all still goes ahead then i will let you know...........right now i have severe cold feet. he didnt call weds night, he was weight lifting, and last night he didnt call because he was working late. when i sent him a text message it didnt get delivered because his phone was switched off. he replied later, saying that his battery had died and that he would talk to me today. yes i know that these do not mean a thing, and that i probably should give him the benefit of the doubt.......but well i dunno. i guess i need to speak with him, he will make me chill a bit like he usually does. i just hate being so insecure that i look at things that could be and probably are really innocent and turn them into something else.
ReluctantRomeo Posted February 25, 2005 Posted February 25, 2005 Originally posted by _Saffy_ i just hate being so insecure that i look at things that could be and probably are really innocent and turn them into something else. I guess this is where the theory breaks down. The trick of working with a CP is not to be too invested... at least, not straight up. An important question arises: will this guy be able to meet your needs for security?
Author _Saffy_ Posted February 25, 2005 Author Posted February 25, 2005 well sweetie, this is where things do work............when im in an insecure phase.......as i am now.....hes there for me stronger than ever. when im in a strong, independent phase, he backs off.....which can force me into insecurity and then he comes back......see?
ReluctantRomeo Posted February 25, 2005 Posted February 25, 2005 Originally posted by _Saffy_ well sweetie, this is where things do work............when im in an insecure phase.......as i am now.....hes there for me stronger than ever. Ooooooh, clever. And this works for me too, now I come to think of it. I never realised this. Although I'm not turned off by the independent thing - just by feeling pressured or hemmed in.
Author _Saffy_ Posted February 25, 2005 Author Posted February 25, 2005 no he isnt turned off by my independent phases either, i guess summed up, it just means that we fluctuate between which one of us is stronger....and it works. when i said he backs off......i didnt mean that he doesnt wanna know, i mean he isnt there as much, simply because he doesnt need to be i guess. ok heres an example.......when im insecure......he will text on and off through the day, check im ok, see what im up to, give reassurance etc when im ok, he will text less, or leave me to text him. does this make any sense? lol
ReluctantRomeo Posted February 25, 2005 Posted February 25, 2005 Originally posted by _Saffy_ does this make any sense? lol Loads of sense. Commitment may scare me, but I can't leave a damsel in distress...
Author _Saffy_ Posted February 25, 2005 Author Posted February 25, 2005 neither can he......i think thats part of the reason why i never quite trust him while hes been around for almost two years, the two times hes has been closer than ever to me are when i have just come out of relationships. when im at my most vulnerable....hmmmmm!!
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