j3t Posted July 24, 2014 Posted July 24, 2014 Though I have no problems making new friends (especially platonic ones, it seems), but when it comes to expressing interest/desire in someone I find attractive...I don't really know how to do so without a serious amount of apprehension and anxiety. I usually think I'm being rude, imposing or a creeper if I want to tell someone I like them and find them attractive. Sometimes I think I'm doing it too soon, have waited too long or should even bother at all. Since I decided to break out of my shell in 2012 and start being less socially repressed and introverted, I've gone on my fair share of dates and have had friends-with-benefits here and there......but I've never had a serious, monogamous relationship with anyone yet and as of late it has been getting to me. Now that all of my friends are always out with their BF/GF's or bring them along when we hang out, I find it's starting to bother and depress me and leaves me feeling lonely. At times I even feel jealous, and I don't to feel that way about my friends because they found someone that makes them happy. Sex is also getting "weird" for me, as I want it but can't see myself enjoying it someone that just sees me as a friend with benefits, not a lover. Really frustrating. I don't know why I do this, as I seem to bond with people and form solid friendships without any problems or friction. I'm a generally likeable person and I'm always told by friends I'm attractive, funny and a pleasure to be around so I know I have that going for me....I'm just unsure of what else is missing here. Also, if it matters, Fun Fact: I did not start dating or having sex until I was 25, two years ago. Thanks!
Assasda Posted July 24, 2014 Posted July 24, 2014 You've been make a few mistakes when youre talking to women. You dont want to tell them you like them. What you want to do, is show them that you like them. Think of someone like James Bond telling a woman that he likes her - It just doesnt happen. - but he sure shows it. You also want to be yourself, the right girl will find you being a creeper sexy. You shouldnt apologize and try to walk on too many eggshells. Finally, you should be comfortable with being alone, no one should "complete" you. You should be healthy by yourself. All of this, and you should be good man. Try not to lay it on too thick with the ladies, be as authentic as possible, and you should be fine 1
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