Implant Posted July 24, 2014 Posted July 24, 2014 I was dumped 4 weeks ago By txt . She said not to miss her move on. She had been hiding her phone at end and seen me after we split only when i asked her if there was someone else and kissed cuddled me but then txt saying it was wrong and didn't want to give me wrong idea. And she has txt a couple of times at weekends asking if I have been out . I have been staying in cause I am so upset . She said she's been doing same . Anyway last weekend she txt asked how I was . Saying she was bored and said she was going to txt me earlier to do something but her friend was coming over then never. I said we could do something during week she said no not a good idea . So she then said I need to come get my stuff soon thats at my house I said ok. And said she can't change how she feels and said she has told her family friends that we are over for good and I was to do same. I said when you have your stuff I want you to delete me and be out of each others life. She said ok no problem. Then I asked if she needed more time see if she feels diff she said no. Then she got bit nasty saying Its little too late and I realised once I lost her . That was Saturday and she's still not came for her stuff. Then My friend suggested writing a letter and sending her flowers saying I missed her . I don't know what to do ? Think it's a good idea . I just don't know if she wants me or not ?? I am so confused and messed up with this
Zahara Posted July 24, 2014 Posted July 24, 2014 Pack up her stuff and have a friend of yours return it to her. Go strict no contact. I have a feeling she is seeing someone and using you as backup and that is why the hot and cold. No, she doesn't want you for the right reasons but just as someone she can use as a backup. And please don't send flowers. A woman like that will deem you a doormat and mind phukk you even more.
Author Implant Posted July 24, 2014 Author Posted July 24, 2014 This is what's so annoying this hot and cold thing. My friends saying she must have feelings still . I still haven't a clue
Zahara Posted July 24, 2014 Posted July 24, 2014 This is what's so annoying this hot and cold thing. My friends saying she must have feelings still . I still haven't a clue Great, she still has feelings but unfortunately those feelings aren't enough to want you and a relationship, is it? Who wants lack luster, maybe, kinda, not so sure feelings? I've experienced the hot and cold -- most times it's because they're still using you as a crutch to transition to the other side. You're there to soothe the discomfort that dumpers feel after an ending as in attention, ego stroke, etc. and not for the right reasons -- they love you and want to be with you. She told you it's over for good and even informed the family. What's confusing? Just because she hasn't gotten her stuff? That's all you need to keep holding on? C'mon. Exhibit self-respect and dignity. No woman finds a man that's waiting around like a puppy dog attractive. Flowers? Don't ever do that when a woman is telling you she is done. You come off weak and desperate.
Author Implant Posted July 28, 2014 Author Posted July 28, 2014 no flowers now . She sent me a txt a picture of herself out on a night out saying look what you have lost . She's just messing with my head . I never txt back and won't now . She's being saying to my close friends that's she's angry with me. This was her that ended it .
Itspointless Posted July 28, 2014 Posted July 28, 2014 no flowers now . She sent me a txt a picture of herself out on a night out saying look what you have lost . She's just messing with my head . I never txt back and won't now . She's being saying to my close friends that's she's angry with me. This was her that ended it . No, she lost you. My first girlfriend - many years ago - had a psychotic moment one night, which was quit frighting to be honest. I was the only witness and unfortunately because of that nobody believed me, I was worried sick. Two days later she wanted a break out of the blue, I got no time frame as she said to me that she did not know why she wanted it. She was really annoyed when I pushed for answers a couple of days later. She said you asked for it and broke up (still no answers). Well in short, I was floored. The weeks after I found out she was partying her ass of with some loser she found the night after she went nuts. She also said things about me to people that were a lie: everything for the scam. So yeah I agree with Sahara and the others in your earlier thread.
Author Implant Posted July 28, 2014 Author Posted July 28, 2014 I have been through every emotion last few weeks . Messed my head up with way she's been acting. Hot / cold glad I posted on here cause I needed advice
SoThatHappened Posted July 28, 2014 Posted July 28, 2014 Follow Zahara's first post to a tee. Become a ghost. Not to get her back, but to get yourself back. She's got someone else. I would be my paycheck on it. If you're a ghost, you don't have to find out who she's with or what she's doing. Change your number. Seriously. Sending you texts to try to make you jealous is disgusting. You don't want to be with someone like that. I have a feeling you two are very young. Doesn't matter. Change your number. Block her email address. Get rid of or block EVERY FORM of social media contact. Remember, you're a ghost now. It's gonna suck for a while, believe me. Your heart is broken and it's a tough road to getting it healed. You will get there, though, I guarantee it.
Chi townD Posted July 28, 2014 Posted July 28, 2014 Dude, you didn't lose anything. She has to demonize you in her head to ease her own guilt of what she's been doing. And that's probably cheating on you if she was hiding her phone towards the end. You need to start a strict NC. Block her from all of your social media. Ignore all texts and let all phonecalls. Tell your friends you don't want to hear about her. Then, start making positive changes in your life. 1
mtnbiker3000 Posted July 28, 2014 Posted July 28, 2014 This is what's so annoying this hot and cold thing. My friends saying she must have feelings still . I still haven't a clue Forget what your friends are saying. Sorry to say, but they don't know what they are talking about. If you want insight into what is really going on and what you should do, just hang around this forum for a while and read, read, read and read some more. You will soon see what the reality of the situation is and how to properly deal with it... But, in a nutshell: She's gone and will only back-burner you. You should cut her out of your life 100% and move on!!
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