Lipitor11 Posted July 24, 2014 Posted July 24, 2014 Basically by leaving major details when that friend tells you something? Awhile back, I told my friend that I was going to a friend's wedding-and I told her the name of the church. Then, like 1 month later, she invited me to her church for some activity class and she said, "I go to that church that your friend got married at last month." I'm like wth? Now, why didn't she say anything to me in the first place when I told her about my friends wedding? Also she's been going to that church for 2 years..really??? And its not the first time she omitted something, there's been several times, when it was obvious. Its kind of like a job application, where a person decides to be dishonest and not put that employer down, for whatever reasons-they considered it "lying" or omitting a previous employer.
d0nnivain Posted July 24, 2014 Posted July 24, 2014 I don't see it as lying by omission. Why were you entitled to that info in the 1st place? yes it might have been helpful for you to know that & it sounds like the next thing in a conversation but I don't see where it was a lie. If you ask somebody a direct Q & they fail to tell you the truth, that's one thing but they don't need to read your mind to figure out what info you may want. 3
lollipopspot Posted July 24, 2014 Posted July 24, 2014 I don't understand that as lying either. You expected her to say it, but she may not have found it important to say at that point. Does she not like to talk about herself in general? I don't tend to talk about myself a lot and I can imagine doing something like your friend did, just not feeling it was important to start talking about my church when it was brought up in another context.
darkmoon Posted July 24, 2014 Posted July 24, 2014 friends can relate how they like, evasive, only marrieds have no right to be evasive, marriage is v close, perhaps you expect too much is there something going on that she feels would be better kept private? you will never know, but you can not expect an explantion, she might find that anti-social, she has the rght to say no, as you/me do
TXGuy Posted July 24, 2014 Posted July 24, 2014 (edited) She sounds like a great person to have as a friend. You were telling a story of a friend getting married. The fact that she did not jump on an opportunity to make herself the center of the conversation would seem like a good thing, not a bad thing. I generally don't buy into the concept of lying by omission. I've heard some examples where I might concede there would be a grey area (can't think of an example right now), but in this case it is not even close. How could you possibly feel deceived by that? Edited July 24, 2014 by TXGuy 3
todreaminblue Posted July 24, 2014 Posted July 24, 2014 friendship doesnt require applications like careers do....i would seriously consider not being a friend to someone if their plan was all along to eat my liver with fava beans....and they failed to inform me they planned on having me for lunch that sort of omission is too big to ignore....deb..... 1
SpiralOut Posted July 25, 2014 Posted July 25, 2014 Your friend didn't lie, she just didn't see the need to mention it at the time. Maybe she thought it would be rude to start blabbering about herself while you were talking about your friend's wedding. If she wanted to keep it a secret, she wouldn't have bothered to invite you to events at the church.
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