Long story ^^ (really long)

[xxxDantexEmmelixxx]

okay, so me and my girlfriend just made it through a REALLY nasty argument, that almost ended the relationship a couple of times.. all because of a little bit of hiding... and long story short, I've been trying to get the truth out of her, and was kinda harsh I think :/ but afterwards, we talked to her ex... and I still didn't trust it (only just realized quite HOW bad my issues are...) but we were chatting quite nicely... and I said to her "by the way, I believe you have a question to ask me ^^" so she wondered, and just remembered one that had popped up earlier, about how she is trying to make me happy.... so I told her there is only 1 way of doing that... and 1 way only....... so I was just hoping for opinions on this reaaaally reaaally long message I just sent her ^^" (if you take the time to read this, your a legend ^^)

 

"well.... the answer to your question sweetie... how to make me happy.. how to end all this... how to make US happy ^^ is just be honest... sweetheart, we've been through too much to let a bit of past get in between us now.... I love you... so...****ing... much... and I've attempted something pretty stupid during this big argument.... I shouldn't still be talking to you now... and I felt like it was the only way to end it all... :/ I'm sorry...but please... don't hide anything.. I know we have stuff in our past that we don't like ourselves... and worry about other people judging us for it.... but I would be the only one who knew.... and what would you rather have?1) an amazing relationship with an amazing boyfriend who understands you, because he knows everything about you... and you know you can tell everything to...

or 2) an alright relationship with an alright boyfriend, who can't fully understand you because he doesn't know everything about you, and have the relationship mess up over a lack of communication... all because of something in your past your worried they won't like... sweetheart you know me, I've done some stupid stuff in my past, probably a lot worse than anything you've done.... I can't judge you.... and I wouldn't anyway ^^a perfect relationship.. a perfect boyfriend... is one that you can tell everything to, without worrying at all... and they will still accept you... because they love you for who you are.... and only want to know about your past so that they know more stuff about you.... and because they are interested in you? ^^

that's what I mean when I say I want to be a perfect boyfriend sweetheart ^^ not only do I want to give you stuff like

cuddles

surprise kisses

sex

touching

and physical stuff like that..... but I also want to know everything about you.... so I can always be here to help you when you need a shoulder to cry on.... I want to be here for you.... without you worrying about me being pissed or upset...sweetheart, the only thing that can get between us is lying and cheating and hiding.... I don't want those.... I want our relationship to be long and healthy.... together forever... through the good, the bad and the ugly... through thick and thin... and be here.... so I can help you through anything... I want to understand you... fully, 100%everybody does stupid things in their past... but if you think... they aren't so stupid.... if you didn't do those things... you wouldn't be who you are now...and because of who you are now... you've got a boyfriend, who, yeah, is ****ty... but at least wants to try to be the best, most caring, understanding boyfriend in the world ^^I don't know what to say to make you trust me... but it just hurts when I think your hiding stuff.... and if you didn't hide stuff in the first place, I wouldn't think like this ^^I really, promise I wont judge your past... I know you propably think I'm just saying this.. and it would end up in another argument... but it won't sweetheart, I promise.... and if I did start an argument... you can hold it against me... saying I broke my promise ^^so please....

 

 

1) why was the real reasons you deleted Aie Ban, Rajesh, and your ex's messages? ^^ <3

 

2) have you ever had roleplay sex... with anyone? besides me and Gajeel? ^^ <3

 

3) have you ever had real sex? or been touched, or touched someone, down there? or done oral or any other sexy stuff I haven't mentioned? ^^

<3

 

I really don't know how to make you believe me... but I mean it.... from the bottom of my heart.... you can trust me.... don't worry about me judging you or calling you a slut (still sorry about that btw :/ ) and I promise there won't be another argument.....please.... just tell me... the full, honest, truthful answers.... I love you sweetie... and I can understand why you would want to hide some of those things.... but there's no need to hide anymore ^^as I always say: "past is past, it makes us who we are today... and I love you... for who you are now.... and we have your past to thank for that" ^^I love you sweetheart... and I just hope you can find it in your heart to tell me the full, truthful, honest answers ^^ I hope you understand how much I mean it ^^

I love you! <3 "

 

so yeah, that was the whole thing ^^ I know people who read this shall become mentally sickened, either by the sheer amount of words, or the context of the words themselves... but opinions please ^^ appreciate it ^^ xx

[TXGuy]

I think that is a bit much to put in an email. I can't imagine anyone (man or woman) reading through that and addressing items point by point like you seem to expect. I would suggest figuring out one or two key items and concentrate on that. Try to make it concise.

 

Maybe the key point for you is full disclosure (though I don't think that is a good idea). If so, discuss why that is important and ask for a follow up face to face conversation to dig into the weeds. Personally, I don't think that will work because many people will feel fully justified lying (or fudging) on questions they feel you have no business asking. You can give it a try, though.

[Philosoraptor]

You want openness, I get it. But you're asking for a complete transcript of someone's life and that's an issue.

 

I dated someone like this, who had to know everything in order to feel close. It was suffocating to say the least. I'm a very open person but when someone expects to know every little thing it becomes more like a pressured interrogation rather than a pleasant conversation.

 

Why is it so important to know these details?