We broke up almost 6 months ago yet I still think about my ex sometimes

[recycledheart]

So, as it says in the title, I broke up with this ex almost six months ago, yet I still think about him every couple of days. Now, when I say 'think about him', it's definitely not in a good way. I hate the guy, when I think about him it's with anger, I'm insulting him or picking out his many faults. My current boyfriend and I have been together for four months, and I love him. He's my first love, I never loved my ex, we were only together for a month and a half and he treated me terribly so I don't understand why he keeps coming to mind.

 

We're not friends any more, we haven't spoken to eachother since we split yet sometimes I still find myself checking his facebook profile to see if he's still in town. Long story short, I don't want him in this town any more since I hate the thought of bumping into him in the town centre, which is very small, and he spends the majority of his free time there. I've seen him walking around a few times and every time my blood boils at the sight of him. He's graduated from university a year ago and got a job there when he left. This uni is in the town I'm in at the moment, and when we were together he said the contract for this job runs out in July (i.e. right now) and I keep hoping that now the contract has run out, he might have gone back to his home town, and I won't have to worry about bumping into him... I never want to see him again. That's all I want to know. Is he still in town?

 

I don't know why he keeps popping into my head when I hate him so much. I'm 100% over him, I'm in love with my current boyfriend and I've never been happier. Maybe I'm just not over how the ex ended things. He dumped me, got back together with me six days later, then dumped me again 11 days after that (the day after Valentine's day, might I add). So he dumped me twice in 2 and a half weeks.

 

So I'm looking for advice as to how to get him out of my head, or at least stop thinking about him as much, and how can I stop myself from constantly checking his fb profile?

[Ronni_W]

He dumped me, got back together with me six days later, then dumped me again 11 days after that (the day after Valentine's day, might I add). So he dumped me twice in 2 and a half weeks.

I've had to get over one of those myself (way more than twice, was I stupid and gullible and stupid)...but really...it's that we were idiot enough to let that happen to us...we ought to just be pissed off at ourselves...until we can self-forgive.

Sort of, "I hate him for making me look and act and feel so stupid for trusting him that second time." (In my case, that one-hundred-and-second time .)

[marcjb]

Why did you get into another relationship after only 2 months and you're still apparently not over your ex?