misso'hare Posted July 23, 2014 Posted July 23, 2014 Hello everyone! So, I'm sure you all have heard variations of this sort of thing quite a bit... And I do apologize for that! You see, what had happened was... I have been single for a couple years now and I've been pretty cool with that. I'm not the type of person to push or force a situation. If it happens, it happens. Of course, that all gets thrown out the window to some extent when someone comes along, right?... I met this guy a couple months ago... We work in separate buildings, etc. He was very kind, considerate - the works. After a few days, we went for a drink after I helped resolve an issue (a friendly gesture, nothing more), he starts asking me questions like: does your boyfriend take you out? (then told him I have been single for a while); what kind of guys do you like; how long have you been single, etc. We talked about many things, and he liked to point out all the similarities we had in our lives. He was a total gentleman, etc. Life went on as per usual. We chatted as many do, nothing out of the norm. A month later, we ended up at a group dinner between friends, which ended up with both of us going to another venue for a drink. Things were fun, etc. Somehow, some way, as I was dancing he thought it was a good idea to kiss me. I dismissed it. He did it again. That time, I didn't. One thing led to another... as they often do. Since that time, some physical stuff has happened indeed but there's other things as well - whenever we end up around one another, we end up spending hours - 12 at the minimum- with one another. This person has been very kind and considerate, going out of their way it would seem (to me anyway). I'm sure they had better things to do, but even had spent my birthday with me. Was very sweet. Nothing happened. Complete gentleman. I'm just not sure if they're interested in me or if it's just my body they want. I'm not in any way trying to pressure them in a relationship - if things eventually lead to that, great. I just don't want to be a piece of meat, you know? Deep down, I think they are interested in me- but that could just be wishful thinking. Thanks for your time, everyone! I value your input
Zippy2000 Posted July 23, 2014 Posted July 23, 2014 I think what she is asking is if the "gentleman" she is spending time with is not seeing her as a piece of meat. I dont think we will ever know. Only time will tell but the fact someone is taking their time with you shows they may be attracted to you romantically. The forums here show people who move fast tend be based on sex/infatutaion whatever. If you enjoy his company then let it see where it goes or even communicate with him what he is looking for. 1
Assasda Posted July 23, 2014 Posted July 23, 2014 You didnt do your self any favors by getting intimate with him so early. He has weak game, and he probably thinks that you do this with everyone. So its a high probability that he could leave you. My advice to you is to back off and get to know him better if you want to get into a relationship. Alas though, I think he'll be on to the next one
Author misso'hare Posted July 23, 2014 Author Posted July 23, 2014 The situation has been a bit vague. I apologize. Mostly the physical stuff has only happened twice. Every other time we are together nothing happens. Whatever I want to do, we do- or he'll suggest fun things to do. That said, there'd been many times we just sit and talk. He asks me a lot of questions about who I am as a person, what I want - do I have any future plans, do I want kids at all, etc. What I find to be pretty sweet about that is that he does really listen or take note of what I tell him. I do agree that being intimate early on is a bad idea. I can't judge the situation though because we were both really drunk. I don't agree with how it happened but I can't blame him when I'm equally guilty. I can say without a doubt had that not been the case I don't think we would have done that at all. At this point it's already happened. Oh well. I'm basically just trying to figure out if he is interested in me. I understand that with physical stuff in the equation makes it harder to tell. He may very well just be having fun and if so I'll handle it. Hard to say as he recently got out of a long term relationship. Thanks for your input
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