Whether it's worth my time..

[kelly001]

Hello everyone,

 

My story is a little complicated so if there's anything missing please ask..

 

I've been single for 3 years now and my brothers friend moved into town a few months ago. The first time I met him I thought he was very attractive but left it at that. After a few months of hanging out and talking to him I realized he was making advances towards me such as hugging, staring at me, being interested in my personal life and not showing interest in any other girls. He was also very pleased that I was wanting to know more about him. I started to grow a real interest in him at this point and told him I liked him very much..eventually we slept together. It was amazing.

The next day my brother found out about it and talked to him. (What was said I don't know). That night I got a text message from him saying that it would be better if we were just friends cause he wouldn't want to see things turn out badly.

 

I said fine.

 

A few days later I had to go on a camping trip that included him and I wasn't sure if I should go, but my girlfriend talked me into it. When we saw each other again it was awkward at first, you could cut the tension with a knife..he wouldn't stop staring at me. During the hole trip he talked to me, stared, brought me food, basically flirting and making me feel like we were a couple. We ended up sleeping together a lot and sharing a tent. We got to know each other even more and had a amazing time.

 

At the end of the trip he said he would call me. He text me the next morning and we exchanged a few words.

I haven't heard from him since Sunday morning. (now Tuesday)

 

Basically I'm more confused then ever on how to handle this. Would it be better to tell him next time he calls, or if he gets physically close, that I'm not a booty call or a friend with benefits.

 

Thanks so much.

Edited July 23, 2014 by kelly001

[I am Bud]

Dear kelly001

 

I have a strange suspicion that your brothers shadow is lurking above this relationship so he may be keeping contact with you to a minimum. I would probably want to have a chat to him about what your brother said and what his thoughts are on that. Your brother might have said, "yo cool it with my sister, I don't want this coming between us if things go sour between the both of you" or he could be taking the protective brother approach, "my sister is off limits so stay away".

 

Once you have determined that your brother is or is not an influence in his actions towards you then you can plan your next course of action. If he says yes your brother said no then you will have to have a chat to your brother and determine whether you still want a relationship with him. If he says no then you can ask him were you guys stand and that you are not a booty call or a fwb.

 

Good luck with it - Bud.

[d0nnivain]

If you want to date this guy you need to tell him that your opinion is the only one that counts & you will handle your brother.

 

Then you need to find out from your brother exactly what your brother said to this guy & going forward you need to get your brother to back off so you can live your own life.