Jalo1548 Posted July 22, 2014 Posted July 22, 2014 I recently broke up with my GF of 3.5 years, well thats a lie, she left me. In the first week of it happening I was hounding her ass like it was do that or die. Looking back I see that I looked both pathetic, and annoying as hell. I turned up to her house twice, text her alot begging and pleading, finishing with "you have changed and I dont like it" and she told me she was finished for good and that she wanted to live her single life. I then found out about this whole NC thing online, gutted I never looked at it sooner. I have not spoken to her now for four days (wow right) but for whatever reason I was using twitter (I never use twitter, but I'm doing stuff I never normally do anyway) and I saw one of her tweets. I decided to look further into her tweets and was abit upset to see her retweeting **** about "live your life and dont let things stop you" and "if you dont make risks now you will regret it" etc. I know it's only twitter, but she isnt aware I read her tweets so it isnt a form of upsetting me on purpose. I have ceased to tweet anything since 4 days ago, deleted her off FB and I refuse to text her first. Is this a stupid phase, is this all part of turning 18 soon and wanting to a rebel? Is she going to miss me after NC for a month or two? Im worried she has turned into something she has never ever been. She has always been about soulmates, and picking out names for our future kids and been loving with me. She changed alot since she got a job a few months ago and started drinking more. Im hoping this is just a daft phase because I could really see a future with this girl, which is why NC is killing me. Even her parents have contacted me and said we are gutted and think you are a great guy. If this isnt a phase I will be gutted, because I am reflecting upon my life and making the changes necessary to make me a better person, even without her. I just see it that I owe her another shot with me, the nice and loving me. I dont want her last impression of me to the dick she knew for the last 6 months. Does anybody have anything to say on this matter? Thanks.
EmbeddedCortex Posted July 22, 2014 Posted July 22, 2014 I recently broke up with my GF of 3.5 years, well thats a lie, she left me. In the first week of it happening I was hounding her ass like it was do that or die. Looking back I see that I looked both pathetic, and annoying as hell. I turned up to her house twice, text her alot begging and pleading, finishing with "you have changed and I dont like it" and she told me she was finished for good and that she wanted to live her single life. I then found out about this whole NC thing online, gutted I never looked at it sooner. I have not spoken to her now for four days (wow right) but for whatever reason I was using twitter (I never use twitter, but I'm doing stuff I never normally do anyway) and I saw one of her tweets. I decided to look further into her tweets and was abit upset to see her retweeting **** about "live your life and dont let things stop you" and "if you dont make risks now you will regret it" etc. I know it's only twitter, but she isnt aware I read her tweets so it isnt a form of upsetting me on purpose. I have ceased to tweet anything since 4 days ago, deleted her off FB and I refuse to text her first. Is this a stupid phase, is this all part of turning 18 soon and wanting to a rebel? Is she going to miss me after NC for a month or two? Im worried she has turned into something she has never ever been. She has always been about soulmates, and picking out names for our future kids and been loving with me. She changed alot since she got a job a few months ago and started drinking more. Im hoping this is just a daft phase because I could really see a future with this girl, which is why NC is killing me. Even her parents have contacted me and said we are gutted and think you are a great guy. If this isnt a phase I will be gutted, because I am reflecting upon my life and making the changes necessary to make me a better person, even without her. I just see it that I owe her another shot with me, the nice and loving me. I dont want her last impression of me to the dick she knew for the last 6 months. Does anybody have anything to say on this matter? Thanks. How old are you? Look, I'm 27 now, my ex is 22. I met her when she was 20. She also changed a lot and left me for some guy she met on Tinder and slept with him 2 days later and now they're in a relationship. All this after just less than 2 months of breaking up with me. The dude is 25 and has a kid apparently. I did all the begging pleading, texting, and such. I went NC after she told me she had slept with the guy. That was a month ago. She texted me a long text apologizing and saying she loved me and missed me, so I got weak and called her back.. Big mistake...she just used me to complain about her life, said she's content with new guy since he does all the stuff I couldn't, blah blah...and that she misses me a lot but was just checking up on me. So no, don't break no contact. If she wants to come back, she'll make it clear, and say so specifically.
Author Jalo1548 Posted July 22, 2014 Author Posted July 22, 2014 I'm 20 and she's 17/18 next month. We were "childhood sweethearts" I guess since we met from 14 and 16. She isn't leaving me for somebody specifically, she promised me this, but she wants to live a single life. I am almost 100% sure if she had me back in 3 months or so she would love the guy I am becoming which is mainly less negative. With her Bday round the corner I fear she will fall for a guy who makes her feel special and gets caught in the moment. I guess only time will tell. I'm also sorry to hear what she did to you, how long ago was this, and how are you/did you deal with it? I don't know if I could handle my ex making such a quick transition.
EmbeddedCortex Posted July 22, 2014 Posted July 22, 2014 I'm 20 and she's 17/18 next month. We were "childhood sweethearts" I guess since we met from 14 and 16. She isn't leaving me for somebody specifically, she promised me this, but she wants to live a single life. I am almost 100% sure if she had me back in 3 months or so she would love the guy I am becoming which is mainly less negative. With her Bday round the corner I fear she will fall for a guy who makes her feel special and gets caught in the moment. I guess only time will tell. I'm also sorry to hear what she did to you, how long ago was this, and how are you/did you deal with it? I don't know if I could handle my ex making such a quick transition. Mine broke up with me in mid May during my Finals week. I begged and pleaded and tried to hold everything together for a few weeks, and she kept flip flopping. Suddenly I found out in Mid June she'd slept with someone the night before.....the same guy from Tinder. Again, no point in thinking about what she will do or not do. Go no contact. If she wants to come back, she will on her own. Usually they will try to friendzone you to make it an easier transition for them.
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