Arge90 Posted July 22, 2014 Posted July 22, 2014 (edited) Hey guys Me and my ex girlfriend split up about 2 years ago, she left me and pretty much went into another relationship straight after, which ended few months back i think. Anyway i got a message from her clearing the air about a month back , i wasn't going to reply because at this point it had been 11 months since we had any contact but i didn't want to be an ******* so i repleid and said that was fine and so on, bit of small talk and that was that done. a week later however she added me on facebook again i accepted but a deactivated my facebook a day later because im not too fond of it and prefer twitter. About a week after that my ex followed me on twitter then but i didn't follow back for about a week or so because i was thinking about it. Now heres the thing a made a bad call a couple of nights ago and sent her a private message over twitter saying (out of curiosity) chcking to see if me and her were done for good so i can put old feelings to bed and move on, which was a mistake i know but i asked because i knew she was single again and i could maybe get a proper answer because it was at the back of mind for a little during no contact. she replied saying she doesn't think me and her are over for good, however she said she one day she wants to settle down but couldn't see herself being with anybody else. At this point i couldn't tell the difference if she meant me or that she couldn't see herself being with another man? She also said that us being a family again ( we have a daughter) could happen again in the future . But she said at the moment she enjoyed being independent and free after her recent break up and that i hope i understand that. We spoke a little more but i kind of left with a feeling as if she isn't really interested, and now i've got a bit down about it and know that i have made so many mistakes after being in nc for so long, i feel at the moment its too late to remove her off social media as i don't want to hurt her feelings or annoy her and don't want to seem beat up about the conversation either. She may be chatting to other guys too but i kind of left the conversation thinking that i wasn't top of the list of her wants basically, and she kind of finished the conversation saying it wasn't about us now it's our daughter, which kind of took a 180 of what she said above about us? Thinking its time to go back to basics again and just avoid her and continue nc and move on for good. Advice needed! if it helps i'm 25 and my ex is 23 Thanks Edited July 22, 2014 by Arge90
Chi townD Posted July 22, 2014 Posted July 22, 2014 You said that she left you and immediate jumped into another relationship. 2 years later she contacts you after you discovered that they recently broke up. Who's to say she isn't pulling the same crap on this guy that she pulled with you. She left him because she has another dude in her crosshair's. You just happened to walk into her cross fire.
Author Arge90 Posted July 22, 2014 Author Posted July 22, 2014 As far as im aware she left her last guy because of abuse not because that there was another guy, she just pulled that one on me unfortunately. She told me she regretted what she did but that was the very first message she sent me.
emotionalMess Posted July 22, 2014 Posted July 22, 2014 How can you be in NC if you have a daughter together? Are you not in your daughter's life?
Author Arge90 Posted July 22, 2014 Author Posted July 22, 2014 (edited) My mom collects her and brings her to my home we only live 15 minutes away, it's to avoid contact as things were messy when we split Edited July 22, 2014 by Arge90
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