JakeEnes Posted July 22, 2014 Posted July 22, 2014 So I got a step-sister when I was about sixteen years old. I am now 22 years old, and she is 18. I've never lived with her, she lived with my mom and my step-dad. I go over there all the time. The thing is, I think I've started getting feelings for her. I find myself thinking about her all the time and I just want to spend time with her. I have just found out she has been having some issues... She left her journal out and I admit to reading a page of it to get some insight, and what I read kind of shocked me. She seems to have some real emotional problems. The kind where she feels like nobody cares about her, she talks about "wanting out," feeling worthless, etc. It shocked me because she generally seems like such a happy person. I would never have seen that in her if I didn't read that page. I just feel like pulling her close and telling her that I care; that I'm here for her to talk to, but that would DEFINITELY expose the way I feel. I KNOW she doesn't feel that way about me and I'm not sure she ever could. It definitely hurts knowing this, but I also understand it would more than likely be wrong any other way. Am I sick for thinking like this? She's been my step-sister for six years. I don't know how to feel or what to do. I texted her the other day after reading the journal and told her that if she ever needed anyone to talk to, I'm there for her. She gave me the "Thanks, that means a lot. :)" message back, and I let her go. She messaged me back later that night at about 1AM and we talked for about four hours about her and what was on her mind. Now I just find myself wishing she'd message me again. I'd like to invite her to hang out, but I feel it may be weird since I've never done so. I don't know. Is this wrong of me to have these feelings?
Standard-Fare Posted July 22, 2014 Posted July 22, 2014 Have you seen "Clueless"? Although a relationship with a stepsibling is definitely complicated and messy, and I'm sure no one would encourage it, if you're not blood relatives I guess there's nothing "wrong" with it. But that's not meant to give you false hope. You said in here: "I KNOW she doesn't feel the same way about me and I'm not sure she ever could." That stuck out to me -- you seem to know already where you stand. The advice is the same for any sort of unrequited crush/love -- if you know you can't have them, you have to do your best to protect yourself and not develop stronger feelings. Keep your distance as best you can and focus on other people. 2
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