Holtzmann Posted July 22, 2014 Posted July 22, 2014 (edited) Hello everyone, This is a very delicate situation. It all started in February this year when I started to have some emotions for this girl I've known now for almost 2 years. We both go on a same college and we were good friends before. We aren't in relationship but it is as we are but it's not official or anything, but still everybody knows about us. In June we kissed for the first time, and two weeks ago we had sex. This weekend we and our mutual friends went on a seaside and everything was great until the last day when we all got drunk. Basically, I said things to her that I didn't mean to (I said that I think that she doesn't care about me and things like that). She knows I didn't mean it and I apollogized immidietly after saying that but she told me that it stuck up in her mind. Yesterday, she told me she needs a short break from everything and some time for herself. The thing is, in August she is coming to seaside with me for 10 days and I checked with her if that still stands and she confirmed, she even said that I don't even think about not going. Now, this "break up" is very hard for me as we were meeting almost every day, and now I don't know what to do. Be sure that I won't contact her in any way, and I even told her that. After she told me that yesterday, we kept talking for few hours afterwards and I could see in her eyes that she isn't happy about it either. I know I made a mistake and I am damn sure it will never repeat it again. When I said that I am leaving, I could see that she is looking at me all the time while I was taking my stuff. And just before I went out, she asked me to stay for half an hour longer to watch a series with her, and I did. I know she has some feelings for me because it is impossible for her not to feel anything after almost 3 months of seeing eachother every day. I talked to our mutual friend today and he said to me that I shouldn't worry and that he is sure that she will contact me in a week. I am really scared that she won't, even tough we will be together again every day in less then a month.. If you need any more information, please tell me.. And thank you for any help you can give me!! Edited July 22, 2014 by Holtzmann
JimmyWeezy Posted July 22, 2014 Posted July 22, 2014 I think she was hurt by the things you said while drunk... Everything was fun and lavish and I guess those words kind of made everything a little heavy... She is definitely into you. Maybe realizing that you care so much was a bit shocking, maybe she is trying to figure out what she feels as well by taking some time for herself. Try to stay positive and cool about things and see what happens. Don't disappear though
Tbisb74 Posted July 22, 2014 Posted July 22, 2014 Stay away, leave her well alone, and wait. If she contacts you be a bit more forceful; you're acting a bit like a wimp. Frankly, drunken blurrings are just that. You're making a mountain out of a molehill. Tell her to get her crap together and stop being so sensitive. It was just some idiotic rambling to see how much she really DID care about you, and it was a dumb thing to do. It's over, done with. You're a couple, Can we move on now? Bloody hell, if you let something as puerile and trivial as this hamper a possible relationship, what are you going to do in a real crisis - roll up into a little ball, suck your thumb and whimper? Why is she calling all the shots? Tell her to grow up.
Author Holtzmann Posted July 22, 2014 Author Posted July 22, 2014 Thank you for your replies! Any more would be much appriciated!
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