nyny123 Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 I'm 26 and never been in a real relationship. I was very shy most my life and my parents were strict and I was sheltered. I didn't have the confidence nor did I know how to go out and meet guys. I turned to online dating and I met my first boyfriend when I was 23 but that relationship lasted only 3 months because he didn't want to be with me. Since then I didn't really date that much, I met a few other men but it never turned into anything serious because they didn't want a relationship or they weren't my type. I want to know what it's like to fall in love and to be in a true, meaningful relationship.
d0nnivain Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 No you don't have to feel bad about yourself. OLD is not the best way to meet people. It is a valid way but not the only way. Do you have girl friends who may be able to give you insights or fix you up? Do you belong to groups or organizations where you can meet like minded people? If not join some. You can find them on sites like MeetUp.com
kolleamm Posted July 22, 2014 Posted July 22, 2014 As mentioned before try the meetup website. I have joined a fitness club on it and have meet some wonderful people.
Mysterio Posted July 22, 2014 Posted July 22, 2014 In my head listing to what you have written. I think that you may have entered a case of entitlement bases on your age with regards to love. There are tons of people like you that feel that they are missing out. I would just be chill. Go out and do recreational activites and enjoy your life. There is long way to go. You are a woman so you are going to out live most of the men you meet anyways. Might as well enjoy things now. At 43. I have to really do that myself. I want the love life and all the jazz that comes with it. Yet I don't have it. I say to myself that the universe will provide me with that when the time is right. There is no point in trying to push that into my life. You could go out there and get a dating coach and all that. What I think that would do is pump up your anxiety and make you exhausted. So why bother. Just try to enjoy your life and let someone else drop in on you.
Wisecrack Posted July 22, 2014 Posted July 22, 2014 Nah, I'm abouts your age and similiar. Don't fret. My biggest tip is NOT to get into online dating. I don't believe in it. Find yourself a passionate hobby and join a community class or like minded individuals in doing it. In doing so, you'll be more confident and meet new people.
Priv Posted July 24, 2014 Posted July 24, 2014 Well since you are a girl, its a not a matter of skill or knowing how for you Why? And I ask that as a man. Aren't women entitled to lacking confidence and being lonely too? Anyway, best relationships I got were from meeting people through hobbies. In my case salsa, motorcycling, and some courses I took an interest in. Not saying do these things, you have your own interests. Try out some new interesting, exciting stuff. Just get out there, and I am sure someone will turn up.
sabre80 Posted July 24, 2014 Posted July 24, 2014 I do not know if this is any consolation, but. . . Better to not be in a relationship at 26 than the wrong relationship. My loneliness at 22 caused me to marry a woman I had no business marrying. 8 years later and 2 children with abandonment issues (mother left) and I have a clearer more mature outlook. At 33 I found the one for me. If I could do it again I would take 33 years single over a single year with the wrong person. If you think loneliness being single sucks, its FAR worse being lonely in a relationship.
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