DandelionGirl Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 Me and my boyfriend were going out for 1 year and 11 months. He was my first love and first everything. We were a LDR and he was in Scotland and I was in the U.S. We visited each other during summer and winter vacations. He said that he wanted to be with me forever, gave me TWO promise rings, and introduced me to his entire family. He really made me believe that he was going to be there for me. Things got hard for me however with my depression and first year in college and two days before my final exams (a written programming exam to be exact)...he breaks up with me. He tells me he wants to focus more on his Physics course and wants me to be with a guy who can give me the attention I "deserve." He has been "busy" enough to go to Greece this summer lol. Talk about a hard road. He hasn't contacted me in 3 months. I have been in shambles because of him and am on antidepressants as well as weakly therapy. It has been really hard getting over my first love. My dad says unfriend him, but I really want to talk things out like adults with him someday and reconcile. What should I do? Will unfriending him eliminate chances of reconciliation?
Zahara Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 Hun, when someone suggests that you need to find another guy that can give you what you need, trust that he has no issues letting you go. If you loved someone, the thought of them being with someone else would never cross your mind. You'd never want it to be so, yes? Everything in his life has become his priority, except you. I know it is hard to let go of your first love. Most of us have experienced that first heart break. You need to unfriend him and cut that tie so that you can let go and move on. Focus on your mental and emotional health. How could you ever get to the other side and be healthy to move forward into other relationships if you keep on feeding what's crippling you? Talking to him like an adult someday in hopes of reconciling is unrealistic. A year from now, you won't know where you will be in life and neither will you know where he's going to be in his life. Focus on NOW. It's a break-up. You need to work on getting over this hurdle. Unfriending him won't change the chances of reconciliation. If a man wants you, FB is not going to be what stops him from being with you. 2
d0nnivain Posted July 21, 2014 Posted July 21, 2014 Unfriending him won't make you reconcile but it will help you heal. If you have online presences, perhaps you can reconnect again in a few years but not now. It's improbable but possible. For now, heal, move forward, live your life. If you find yourself in Scotland again, look him up. Don't go there just to see him. Otherwise forget about him for now. Talk to your dad when you are feeling blue. Good dads know how to help heal their daughter's broken hearts.
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