Shiraz Posted February 22, 2005 Posted February 22, 2005 Why is it so hard to let go. I've been in a relationship for 3.5 years with a married man. I know it's been a very unhealthy relationship emotionally for me. It's eaten at me most of my days. Now I feel I can let go. He was there when I needed him. Now I think I can fend for myself. It's quite obvious he has lost interest in me. He puts very little effort into our relationship. His favorite line is "he's busy" Okay. I know I have to let go and move on. Why am I so afraid just to do it. The words good-bye are at the tip of my tongue, but just won't come out. Why? I hate being such a coward.
tattoomytoe Posted February 22, 2005 Posted February 22, 2005 well make your favorite line, when it comes to MM, "sorry, i am too busy!"
greenhorn Posted February 22, 2005 Posted February 22, 2005 Originally posted by Shiraz I hate being such a coward. Well i think this line was the first step, if you hate then try not to be a coward and see things in proper context and get back to your dignity. TMT, earnest plea pls revert to your old avatar.
greenhorn Posted February 22, 2005 Posted February 22, 2005 Thanks TMT ..lotta thanks for chaging your avatar.I guess its you ..you look cool !!
smile95 Posted February 25, 2005 Posted February 25, 2005 well I just broke up with my MM lat week and I waited a year to do it! I always wanted to, but I loved him. I finally had enough of the "I'm busy" and cut it off. He is sep and does not live with the wife, but it is long distance and too hard. We were together 3 yrs and it is the hardest thing to break up with one you love, but I was miserable for so long. I still long for his voice, but I am STAYING strong nd not letting him walk all over me anymore!YOU CAN DO IT! You deserve to be #1.
clynn Posted February 25, 2005 Posted February 25, 2005 You don't really need to say it. Just say "I'm busy" once. Then again and again and again. Good luck!
lynnered Posted February 25, 2005 Posted February 25, 2005 Originally posted by Shiraz Why is it so hard to let go. I've been in a relationship for 3.5 years with a married man. I know it's been a very unhealthy relationship emotionally for me. It's eaten at me most of my days. Now I feel I can let go. He was there when I needed him. Now I think I can fend for myself. It's quite obvious he has lost interest in me. He puts very little effort into our relationship. His favorite line is "he's busy" Okay. I know I have to let go and move on. Why am I so afraid just to do it. The words good-bye are at the tip of my tongue, but just won't come out. Why? I hate being such a coward. i was w/h x mm for almost 4 years ,i think what makes it harder it that he was there when you needed him,its been 1 month nc he started texting me,IMing,&emailing me a couple of days ago, and you know what i was feeling better !!then here he comes again always starts calling but this time I've stood firm as no physical contact&no seeing each face to face,he plans on leaving"one day(don't they all lol), anyway w/h me i kept going through it in my head for at least 2 months and i was sick and tired of being sick &tired of it ,prev times it had been in the heat of the moment ,if he too busy to sit down so you can break it off i would just not call him don't take his calls . he was there when you needed him &I'm sure you did the same for him call it even .your not a coward its not ez keep posting it will help!! good luck
Author Shiraz Posted February 25, 2005 Author Posted February 25, 2005 Thank you all, it does feel good to talk about it. I know what you are all saying already. But your right, it's hard. I tried las tnight. The words came out.... But by the time he left, it was "see you Monday" It's coming I know it is, one day I will stick to my guns. Again, thank you for the support folks. I need it.
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